the reason i'm asking is because over this past summer i met an arab man or should i say boy. he's 19 and i'm 15. the guy totally took me by suprise by asking me to marry him. first i refused, i couldn't beleive my ears. he told me he loved me etc. i asked him if he beleived in haveing more than one wife, he said no. "theres only one love for me" all while placeing my hand on his chest lol. then i brought up religion, he's muslim i'm christian. he said i could convert, i told him no. then he said he'd convert, i said fine. he asked me again would i marry him. i kinda sorta said yes when i let him slip the ring on my finger. i told him i wasn't legal yet. he said "will you wait for me then". i'm sure you know what means. i said yes, and asked him if he'd wait for me, he said yes.we said that when i was 18 we'd marry. i dont know what the hell i was thinking. since the summer i've thought about what our marraige would be and possibly telling him i cant.he's so serious its scary.
2006-09-23 14:33:22 · 9 answers · asked by ~SWEET* SWEET *T&T~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All I can say from experience its that if it feels like too much too soon and too good to be true, it is. There is something not so good waiting in the background. I dont know this kid but anyone who moves too fast has some issues that wont come out until YOU fall in love and find it harder to view everything as you should. Arab men in general think of women as less than them and they are very traditional when it comes to a women's place in this world. Cooking, cleaning, raising children and obeying men are normal. Besides all that, at 18 your way too young to get married. You have no idea how many things you will miss out on if you follow through with this marriage. Its not a good idea and your gut is trying to tell you that.
2006-09-23 14:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I think the real problem here are the Western girls who can't be serious. Yeah, you're young, but being young doesn't mean you have to act young and go sleep around have fun.
I'm tired of Westerners thinking that way, the only thing they get is just more slutty. Don't take advice from them.
If you don't want to marry him then don't. I would be more worried if the guy wasn't serious. Besides, I would applaud a guy who has willpower to stay faithful and wait for a girl for years and STILL want to marry her then.
I think you're worried for all the wrong reasons. But if you can't deal with it then don't marry him. He can find a better and more suitable girl for him then.
2006-09-23 21:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by Magnuna 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you let your emotions cloud your sight, You are a young woman and should not have to wait for ANY man. Tell him, that even though you care for him, it's best that you not accept his proposal. Tell him that you two can remain friends, and even date still if you wanted to, but you are both free to meet others. Then, after a few yrs have gone by, and you both feel the same, then decide where to go from there.
2006-09-23 21:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy Dearest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of race or religion don't settle now for a life time ahead of you. You need to tell him you wont wait. Why should you wait? you are young and have so much to learn and discover. Tell a trusted adult, maybe your mum about what has taken place. You don't want hassles so just end the whole "engagement" thing now, learn from it and enjoy life.
2006-09-23 21:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by an6el 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only 15 my advice 2 you as an Arab girl myself is" START RUINING AND DON'T STOP UN TILL YOU GET AS FAR AWAY AS YOU CAN GET FROM HIM" . M.T
2006-09-23 21:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mary T 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that's your red flag RUN, you are too young, and if he's scary now wait till after marriage
2006-09-23 21:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by gabby 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, there even nicer when they have gone to see ala
2006-09-23 21:40:27 · answer #7 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nice story, do you find difficulty in lying?
2006-09-24 17:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by im 2 hot 4 you! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
run forest run, next thing you know , you will be on a plane ! with a bomb straped !
2006-09-23 21:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by hunglow 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋