Last year my former boyfriend proposed and I said no. We eventually broke up. After 3 years together I could not marry him because I realized that I did not live him enough. Should I have done it differently? PS: I don´t regret it although nowadays I´m all by myself...
2006-09-23 14:18:00 · 15 answers · asked by zocotroco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have the same problem...actually my bf keeps talking abut marriage and kids and stuff...but i am not ready for this...and most of all...i don't think I'm ready for this with him...i don't think i could stand a lifetime being with him
we've been dating for 3 years...
I'm really scared that one day soon he will pop the question and i will not know what to say not to hurt his feelings
u did well girl! ur happiness is the most important
2006-09-23 14:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by Diana_84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. You could be married and still feel alone with the only option of divorce instead all the options still on the table.
Marriage is really hard with the perfect couple- it would be so much more complicated and miserable if you don't have the strength of love to see it through. On the other hand 3 years into my marriage I felt as though the love had faded- this happens- it's because you are living normal life with your mate and you have to make it spicy every so often- this is what I've been told by many couples all married between 30 to 40 years- don't ever expect the passion to stay just as strong as when you first dated. But if after 3 years you knew you did not love him unconditionally then you made the right decision. Cutting ties to a 3 year relationship should probably be swift and firm - so it sounds like you did it right.
2006-09-23 14:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by M C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously said no for a reason. Just think..what if you said yes.. would you want to be unhappy in your marriage? At least you ended it when you did and for good reason. The right one will come along at the right time. Being single does have it's negatives, but your waiting for someone who will be there beside you for the rest of your life, it's so worth it.
2006-09-23 14:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were ready for marriage you would of said yes rather than no. You did the right thing, one of these days you'll find the right man to marry. Good luck!
2006-09-23 14:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by BadAssGirlINWV 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person can not answer that online from outside the relationship. It all depends on the relationship and what is happening. If you are having doubts, I would take that as a serious sign to not marry the person.
2006-09-23 14:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by Aubrey's mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to be alone than in a loveless marriage. You did the right thing. Don't worry someday you will find that lucky guy that will love and respect you. Good Luck.
2006-09-23 14:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you werent in love with him then its best you said no. That wouldnt have been fair to either of you in the long run. To not be alone is not the reason either. Just be patient and your guy will come.
2006-09-23 14:20:45 · answer #7 · answered by sassysharli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you mean you didn't "love" him enough.
You shouldn't marry somebody you don't love enough. ANd you should try him for at least 5 years first I think to make sure.
Its not easy to be alone, I hope you find somebody.
2006-09-23 14:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one thing worst than being alone.
Being married to someone you can't stand.
2006-09-23 14:20:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. It's better to be alone than with someone you don't love, that is misery.
2006-09-23 14:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by trainer53 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋