I have been with my b/f for a long time and we have been having some problems and I want out. I have felt this way for awhile but it has gone on for to long. I have feeling for someone else but that is not the reason i want to leave. I need sometime for me to get to know me as a person. I have had a boyfrined for so long I forgot who I was. I just need to easiest and and least hurtful way to break it off?
2006-09-23 14:14:55 · 13 answers · asked by chick29 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well there is no easy way to do this...for either of you! It's gonna hurt him like hell to hear it and it's gonna hurt you like hell to say it! Seriously sit him down and just tell him! He'll never know unless you do. Cheating and all that bs is not the way to go. If you're not feeling it anymore...let him know so both of you can get on with your lives. You seriously can't keep this bottled up especially if you have feelings for someone else and you've lost your sense of self being! You seem like an amazing person...and so does he...so why should you keep each other away from other people when you know you're not right for each other? Like I said...there is no easy way to tell someone you don't want to be with them anymore...but if you're honest and up front...i'm sure he'll respect you alot more than if you don't say anything and just run off and be with someone else...I know I would! Hope this helps!
~Miss K
2006-09-23 14:23:00 · answer #1 · answered by Miss K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you've been with this guy for so long, just tell him the truth. That you need to step back and do your own thing. Truth is always best...well most of the time...lol. Anywho, just make sure you don't get with anyone else for a while either, because it will look as if you lied to him. Casual dating is okay, but nothing serious. I hope this helps.
2006-09-23 14:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by GRR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so are you really mad at him or like hate him then you can say:
"ok look its over it not me its you" **rips up something like his photo or gift he has given you**
or if it will be really hard to day good bye you could say:
"look, for a while I have been wanting to confront this for a while but I have tell you this. I think we should split, and I know I know, but we have been having diffrences but we need to go our seprat ways, i am sorry.
and if you don't want to do in person do it over the phone, email or better yet have someone else do it for you!!
2006-09-23 14:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by Ally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no "easy" way to do it and not come off as a hurtful person to him or his family/friends. Just be honest. And I hope he's not the sort to pin you or anything, not let you leave. Keep us posted.
2006-09-23 14:18:27 · answer #4 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your boyfriend, not your husband. So are you living together or what. Just tell him you need some time to find yourself, so tell him you are getting your own place next month. Do you have bills or payments together or property to settle up. Good luck.
2006-09-23 14:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no easy way to break someone's heart. The least you can do is be truthful to him. Say it straight. Cut the craps.
2006-09-23 14:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by Mary Rose 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him what you just said except for the feelings for the other person. I'd leave that part out
2006-09-23 14:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by weldergooroo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is going to hurt, period, so be up-front, honest and vigorous about this.
"Bill, I have been thinking about this for some time. We cannot be together any more. I can't take it any longer and it would be best if we went our separate ways."
2006-09-23 14:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
tell him exactly what you just said. you need time and space to rediscover yourself. it wont be easy but sometimes necessary to find yourself again.sticking it out isn't always the best solution.
2006-09-23 14:19:12 · answer #9 · answered by me2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you just told everyperson in cyber space.
2006-09-23 14:18:47 · answer #10 · answered by Aubrey's mommy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋