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Question

We knew each other for a total of six weeks when she announced that she was pregnant with my baby. She explained that she had a positive pregnancy test 25 days past the start of her previous period. (Estimated 9-10 days after ovulation).

We've now known each other for two months, and this would mean that she is beginning her 5th week. I would be fine with all of this but some things don't seem to add up. She is showing symptoms of being farther along than this. This is her first pregnancy and I can begin to see a slight swell in her belly that wasn't there two weeks ago. It's hard to detect since she is starting to fill out all over. Her breasts are definately changing. Her skin has a new silky feel to it, and she is beginning to have increasingly defined mood swings. She complains of cramping, and has had constipation for nearly a month now.

Is it normal to have all these symptoms so early in the pregnancy? How can I verify short of a DNA test?

Answer 1

There's no time limit on how long you have to know a person to get/get them pregnant. It might've happened the first time you had sex, or could have happened before you had sex, if semen got anywhere near her vagina, or if you or she got semen on your hands and touched her genitals. It doesn't always take Tab-B in Slot-A to get pregnant. Sperm swim. It's what they were made to do. Freak things happen.

Some women start showing in the first month. Some don't start showing until their sixth or seventh month (my cousin's wife didn't really show until halfway through her seventh month, and now, at the end of her pregnancy, she looks like she's ready to pop). Showing depends on the woman's body type as well as how she's made inside.

If you're having doubts, have a DNA test done. There's no other way to verify that the baby is yours. But you need to realise that this will almost definitely hurt this woman emotionally, and you may not be able to have a relationship with her afterward, *especially* if you are the father. Telling her that you won't believe it's yours until a DNA test is performed is a huge neon "I DON'T TRUST YOU" sign over your head that will probably never go away.

Edit: Also, about the ultrasound suggestions that people made above, you need to keep in mind that even doctors' predictions of conception dates are likely to be off. They're almost always off by a week, and sometimes more.

Answer 2

I think you already know the answer to this. Even the pregnancy test that advertise being able to detect pregnancy before the period is due only advertise like 2 days early. She would have had a positive reading 4 or 5 days early, to me this is unlikely.

Ovulation typically occurs 14 days after the first day of a period the test wouldn't be reliable until her period was due again or no sooner than 2 or 3 days depending on which test she took. So that puts us at day 26 so it is iffy at best.

I've had 4 children and am pregnant with my 5th. You would not notice any changes in her abdomen this early, breast yes but only slightly.

You can't have a DNA until the baby is born. There is a test that can be done however it is expensive and risky and I can't think of the name of it.

You just need to decide either way if it is yours or not do you want to be with her?

You can however go to a sonogram with her. The sonogram will give a very accurate account of when the baby is due by how big it is and where it is at in the developing stage. If she won't let you go then she is hiding something.

Answer 3

She shouldn't be "showing" really all that much at 5 weeks. At 4 months, yes. At 5 weeks, no.

Go with her to the doctor as they measure the belly. It's a pretty accurate indicator.

That seems fairly off that she would wait to test herself 25 days later. You had only been together for 30 days.

Here's the best deal--confront her on it. Explain that some things just don't make sense, and you feel you have an obligation to know the truth. Ask her to tell you whether or not she slept with someone at least 1 month prior, and how possible it is that HE is the father.

Answer 4

Unfortunately with pregnancy every woman is different. She could be one of those who have symptoms early on. I was sick from day one..and had a rage fits before I even knew I was pregnant. On the other hand if you have only known this girl for two months she could be just looking for a daddy for her baby. Trust your instinct...then get a DNA test. Hope the best for you.

Answer 5

If you have questions of being the father, it can be very expensive to do a DNA test now. I would suggest keeping your questions to yourself and going with her to an ultrasound. They can get pretty close to the date of conseption by how the baby is developed so far. Don't mention it before hand or she may not tell you about the date for the ultrasound, plus you may be wrong and hurt her for no reason.

Answer 6

Maybe shes just overeggerating her symptoms everyone knows whatr happends when there pg but some take it a lil far just make sure you go to the first ultrasound itll tell you how far along she is and you can count back that many weeks to see if you were with her

Answer 7

This is very normal for a first pregnancy, or for nay pregnancy. I would recommend that if you have your doubts, seek a DNA test after the baby is born, that way you know for sure!

Answer 8

o what a tangled web we weave
you need to straighten out your relationship with her. you made the decision to have unprotected sex with her obviously very shortly after you met - so now suck it up.
you are being very selfish in thinking about yourself right now
she may very well be stringing you along, but what if she is? that makes her just as selfish as you and you deserve each other.

5 weeks is about right to start showing - I did - but you'll know more once she gets to a doctor

and make sure the baby is well taken care of

Answer 9

if u still have doults after talking to the doc u will get an ultra sound around 18 weeks and that will tell u how far she is do the math than good luck

Answer 10

GO TO THE DOCTOR WITH HER TO FIND OUT REALLY HOW FAR A LONG SHE. EVERY WOMAN IS DIFFERENT THOUGH. I WOULD GET A DNA TEST RIGHT AFTER THE BABY IS BORN SO YOU CAN BE SURE THAN GO FROM THERE. GOOD LUCK!