My husbad had an affair a year ago......we are trying to work things out but he is not satisfying me. His cousin is getting divorced and asked me out.......Is it cool to go out? My husband is out of the country for 6 months at the time with work....I think I'm lonely and meed the attention . What to do?
2006-09-23 13:43:45 · 21 answers · asked by mtars_2005 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Husband is in Iraq.
2006-09-23 13:48:34 · update #1
stay faithful, it pays off in the long run.
2006-09-23 14:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by ~SWEET* SWEET *T&T~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being lonely and wanting the attention is not a ticket to being allowed to have an affair. If your husband had an affair and you're sitll with him, then you've given him another chance -- that does not give you the right to cheat on him. Especially when he's gone. If you are unable to handle being faithful while he is gone, then you need to talk with him about separating or divorcing. Cheating on him while he's out of the country will surface when he's back and cause future problems.
Marriage is about communication.
If you decide to have a relationship with someone, your husband's cousin in a bad choice all-around. If you were to stay with his cousin, you'd have ties to your ex-husband forever through family. Besides, his family will not appreciate you cheating on him to go out with another family member.
Don't do it -- not worth it. Find someone else if you need to, but first end your relationship with your husband. You owe it to yourself and to him.
2006-09-23 20:54:36 · answer #2 · answered by goddess_veronica54 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not do that. Just because your husband had an affair would be no reason for you to do the same, much more to his cousin, even if he is divorsed.
If you are really sad, find some consolation with family and friends.. You are only sex starved and that could be remedied in private without getting involved.
There are many toys out there you can enjoy every hour without cheating on your husband.
Read books, see movies at home,, good movies not x rated movies,,,
There are many things you can do to avoid your loneliness...
Pray hard if you know how...
2006-09-23 20:51:08 · answer #3 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because your husband cheated, that doesn't mean you should stoop to his level and and do the same thing. If you are not happy in your marriage then get out of it. If you were to sleep with his cousin, that would be really low.It would make you look bad. Besides it's definetly not going to better your relationship with your husband and that's what you said you and him were trying to do. think about how you'll feel when your husband finds out. Imagine trying to explain that you slept with your husbands own cousin to him. Imagine how their family would look at you. Imagine how your kids will feel(if you have them). I think you need to either forgive your husband , learn to trust him again and be happy with him or just move on and find someone you feel you can trust and be happy with that person( I don't think his cousin is that person). I don't think being with this guy cousin would make you happy. Well good luck with your situation!:)
2006-09-23 20:59:35 · answer #4 · answered by Lin_Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you that info about husband in Iraq is going to get bad response from people automatically people are going to accuse you of all sort of name because you husband is in a war
well that should matter
ask youself this ? do you think that their is a chance for you to work things out with him even if their is no chance don't go out with his cousin _he should not have ask you out anyway
if you are lonely try hanging out with the girls, keep yourself busy
but to go out with a family member is very bad
as for you thinking that you have feelings for him it might just be the lonelinest talking
Think before you anything
2006-09-23 21:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would only make things worse with your husband. I am not sure if you have feelings for the cousin, I think you are hurting still, and you feel you'll be vindicated if you do it. Not a good idea, at the end of the day you'll feel miserable about it.
Let your cheating husband be the one to blame for your pain, not yourself, is not worth it.
2006-09-23 20:50:13 · answer #6 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two wrongs don't make it right!! what's wrong with you? why do woman always wants to get even by going out with another guy? be more creative do something or better yet be a better wife maybe you will be happier when the husband comes back from serving the country, good thing comes to those who wait.
2006-09-23 20:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok ya'll are trying to work things out? why the hell are you going to cheat on him.? whats going to happen is your going to need the attention and you do something you regret. yes,. your husband had an affair but obviously he's sorry for it. and the cousin is an *** for even asking no offense. good luck.
2006-09-23 20:47:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're still married, you definitely should NOT go out with your husband's cousin . . too many risks involved . . you think you have feelings for him . . you're not satisfied by your husband . . you're feeling lonely . . and your hubby's overseas . . . I would say if you're not happy with your husband, get divorced first . . . then seek satisfaction elsewhere . . . although he had an affair, 2 wrongs don't make it right . . .
2006-09-23 20:46:31 · answer #9 · answered by ♥LoisLane♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking us, your mind is there already. You are only trying to get even and his cousin is DEAD WRONG for hitting on you. He knows the situation and how you feel right now and he is taking advantage of it. Don't fight evil with evil. You will regret it!
2006-09-23 20:47:05 · answer #10 · answered by Faith In The House 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have feelings for your husbands cousin there is nothing you can do, your heart wants what it wants. Sometimes you just need to explore other possibilites, to see if the feelings your having are real.
2006-09-23 21:02:46 · answer #11 · answered by Tiffy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋