I would love to be a goth. I love every bit of it. The only thing holding me back is my mother. She absolutly hates everything gothic. My father wouldn't mind too much, but my mother would kill me if I expressed my gothness. How can I persuade her that being goth isn't as "evil" as she thinks it is.
2006-09-23 13:06:50 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Fashion & Accessories
you have to be yourself. eventually your mother will have to learn to exept it and if she really loves you, then she will except you. just be yourself, because after all this is your life and you have to live it for you. not for your mother.
good luk
2006-09-23 13:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been goth since I was about 15 (which was ten years ago) but I was lucky enough to have parents who wanted to encourage my creativity and independance.
I now work in a high priced law firm and have had to make come sacrafices. I always tend to say that "regular" people would call me goth, but goths would not. You don't have to be all out on the surface to enjoy what you may enjoy. I guess I am on the "fringe".
I would suggest talking to your mother honestly about what appeals you to it...if you make your case well she shouldn't deny you
If that fails, the next time you drive by a pregnant "bling bling" girl, simply ask her if she prefers you were her.
No doubt your mother loves you and is just concerned for your best interests...if you are honest and candid nothing bad can come of it.
2006-09-23 20:20:43 · answer #2 · answered by elysialaw 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's part of being goth. It's not parent friendly. Seriously, though, a fair amount of it is in the attitude, ideas. I can pass for normal, but inside I think more goth than anything else. Oh, and if it'll help with your mom--I'm Christian, too.
2006-09-23 23:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by spunk113 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, i'm assuming you love your mother (which you should, considering she gave you life..) so you should try to keep her at least somewhat happy..if you really desperately want to be goth, just try not to be so extreme. or talk to your mother about your feelings, but don't be extreme and start out the conversation with "I WANT TO BE A GOTH NO MATTER WHAT" or something like that.
2006-09-23 20:09:25 · answer #4 · answered by blahhhaha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try using some of the more sedate elements. Like say a leather wristband with flat studs, not spikes. Modify the style so its not so outlandish. Be creative. Maybe your mom will appreciate you for using some restraint. Its a very mature thing to do.
When my kids were young they wanted to be punk. They were allowed to wear some leather and tease the hair but not dye it green. They got to be with the other kids but not look stupid.
2006-09-23 20:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by groomingdiva_pgh 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that your mom disapproves your clothing choice.
I am sure that her mom didn't like her wearing tight fitting bell bottoms and tight tops back in the day but I am sure that she ( your g-ma) got used to it. She should accept you no matter what.
Just sit her down and explain that this is me. Some people are just ashamed of it, others could really care less. Be who you want to be, not how someone else wants you to be. I admire your indivuality.
2006-09-23 20:18:57 · answer #6 · answered by colinsmom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*lol* the idea is to be goth BECAUSE your mother hates it. honestly, if your mom's feelings on the matter are of concern to you, goth is not your way of life.
2006-09-23 20:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by nerdyhermione 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I for one can't figure why you can't just be yourself. I think people are just trying to excape from the harshness of the real world and feel left out. Yea it suck's sometime's , but you would be better off just getting a better education and stop trying to be something your not. After all if you just want people to notice you then become a better friend and listen instead of voiceing your opinion too much, and study, study , study.
2006-09-23 20:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
slowly introduce her to it... and you dont really have to dress "goth" to be "goth" though its definately nice to be able to dress the way you want. anyways... just kinda nudge her towards it, asking for the freedom to wear what you want.
2006-09-23 20:09:38 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
explain to her that the way u dress doesn't make a person tell her not to judge your appearance but to judge u by your character that's whats really important. tell her its not right to judge someone on the outside its whats inside that really matters. and i think she probably know this but sometimes parents need reminders to they to forget
2006-09-23 20:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by sarah v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋