I met my ex when I was a sophmore, right before I turned 16, we were together for 11 years, have kids the works. I thought he was a great guy, treated me really good, didn't argue too much, always there when I needed him, everything. But then a year ago I found out he was a totally different person, he'd cheated on me ALOT, lied about where he was and when he was working, and had his friends lie for him too. It all ended when he was gonna get an apartment with another girl(while he lived with me and the kids), and I found out about her. We confronted him together and he acted like we were the crazy ones. Needless to say, he made me have a few issues with guys. Well now I have met a guy online, just emails and a couple of pictures but he seems really nice and sincere, and says he's had a girl he wanted to marry break his heart(i never told him about my loser ex), so he doesn't play games cuz he knows how it feels. Should I believe him or is this just another way guys screw with girls?
2006-09-23 12:53:53 · 13 answers · asked by momw/8 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am 28 now, the relationship that I just ended was pretty much the only serious one that I have had, and that was screwed up. And I don't give out ANY info, I know there are nuts out there.
2006-09-23 13:15:52 · update #1
To begin with: don't take any unessesary risks. Keep in mind that you do not know the side of the girl's story(the one who broke his heart)and do NOT give him any info, not about your past, not about your kids, not no personal info---a lot of these online guys are not for real---they present themselves pretty good. I have heard a lot from other women who went to online dating sites and were taken to the cleaners etc.etc.
Next, go to this website:
www.dontdatehimgirl.com and try to find out if he is listed there as a cheater of loser.
Lastly, don't rush into a new relationship. Give yourself time to enjoy your freedom---it might not be splendid when you are a single mom, but you know what? It is wonderful to go out and make friends without having to worry about a guy, it is great to wake up in the morning and not to have to tend to a guys needs, and it is even greater if you don't have to wash his dirty undies. Give yourself that chance---in time you will find someone else. Good Luck
2006-09-23 13:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be really careful with this. I was on a singles dating thing too on line and wrote to quite a few guys. Take your time, and I mean take your time! Move slow! I wrote to guys for months before we talked about seeing each other. The ones that came on too strong or wanted to come and see me too soon, I deleted.
Take your time and don't be in a hurry with anyone. They all can say all they want on line, it's a whole new ball game when you're together in person. Write for a long time and see how it goes, you'll know soon enough. Use your head.
2006-09-23 12:59:31 · answer #2 · answered by trainer53 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be very careful. I found out the hard way that people are not what they seem on line. One person said to me once. "i could tell you anything, and you wouldnt know if it was true" On line relationships are just THAT. on line. only. Good luck. Dont give him any personal info. Take it from someone who knows. Its not a good idea.
2006-09-23 12:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by motherof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful. I have met two whackos on line who used me for money. The person may seem nice, but you really won't know them until you spend quality time in person with them.
2006-09-23 12:57:40 · answer #4 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey almost all guys want to screw with girls but just chill and send that other guy a taste of you!
2006-09-23 12:58:50 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetbabegetaway2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse he is just another guy! They are pretty much all the same...but in degrees. Give it a chance...but dont think in terms of "forever".
2006-09-23 12:57:23 · answer #6 · answered by rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know, maybe he wants to tap that booty or maybe he's seriously. Either way just give it a try, just dont get too attached too fast
2006-09-23 12:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by You_dumb_bastard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember you have to weed through a few bad ones to find the good...besides nothing ventured nothing gained...you will never learn to trust again if you don't open yourself up to a new relationship
2006-09-23 13:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by *sun*flower* 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably trying to screw with you-Good Luck.
2006-09-23 12:57:46 · answer #9 · answered by boilerrat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beware! you only know what he tells you. and you only know what he looks like by the photograph he sent you electronically. it may not even be him, or it could be him when he was younger, or cleaned up. be very, very careful. he could be married, or someone trying to scam you out of your money.
2006-09-23 15:54:52 · answer #10 · answered by bad guppy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋