i have been lied to shunned by his family and treated like dirt but we have a child he wants to see him and take him to his parents house but they refuse to speak with me and never have....
2006-09-23 12:52:04 · 9 answers · asked by uplate31 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i have tried to speak with his parents but his mother says i have to much baggage[i have 2 other sons]from a previous relationship and am not good enough for her son although i work fulltime and raise them all well she refuses to come to my house because its a council house im at my wits end i just want to make sure that they are cool with the baby
2006-09-23 13:09:20 · update #1
it depends on what you are comfortable with. If he was violent towards you or your child then i would be a little weary about it and see a solicitor, but if he is a good dad to your child then i think it would be wrong to try and stop him from seeing his child. You know in your heart what you should do for the sake of your child, and if this family would treat him badly like they have you. I do believe every child should have contact with their dads if possible. Kids aren't stupid, my dad was a complete prat when i was little and i believed everything he told me until i was about 9 when i just realised what my dad was like, but i am glad my mum let me find that out my way as if not i would have resented my mum from stopping me see my dad and would still see him through rose tinted glasses (or how ever the saying goes) but i think you know deep down whether it's safe for your child to see his or her dad and other family. Please don't use this as a tool to hurt them (your ex and his family) as it is not fair on your son has a right to know his dad, (i am of course assuming there is nothing dangerous he will be exposed to such as violence or drugs)
The ball is in your court and i would consider speaking to someone who knows you all well who could give their opinion and then maybe you might be able to make a decision.
Good luck, i hope this helps you in some way.
2006-09-23 13:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by 2plus3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you have a child with someone, you are bonded together for the rest of your lives and unfortunately that does include terrible in-laws or extended family. Your child has a right to see his father and family on his father's side as long as he is loved and treated kindly. They don't have to like you, and you do not have to like any of them; however you do have to be civil and speak to them on occasion about your child. People go through ugly divorces everyday, and they somehow make it work. It just takes a little maturity, and a whole lot of patience. Things will get better with time...As long as everyone involved truly cares about his best interests, everything will work out.
2006-09-23 20:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His family is treating you bad. That usual:( What about your partner? How his family treat your child? If no another choice - get over that relationship, second- relax.It's lots of emotions around as i can see. You can't make the right decision in that situation. So calm down and after that you can build your strategy. Just don't allow for bad emotions get over you. Your child needs to see and know his/her father as well as you -that's for sure
2006-09-23 20:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by Everona97 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the family are decent with your child and treating him well and not being petty with him about you, then you should let him have contact with them. I know it's hard and you're hurt but don't deny your son their affection etc on this basis alone. As time goes by he will make his own mind up and will appreciate the opportunity you gave him to have his extended family.
2006-09-23 19:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by xbkw46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time is a helaer hun...just give them time they might come around just make sure you surround ya self with your friends and family for security and comfort... good luck hun
2006-09-23 21:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by guilty_conscience_83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to be cool about it if he wants to see the kid, cause it will take him a long time to see him if it has to go to court.
2006-09-23 19:55:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crikey! Stick up for yourself! You are the Boss of this situation. If they shun you, then you shun them!
2006-09-23 19:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him to sort out his shabby parents if he wants to take the kid there
2006-09-23 19:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
time... plenty of time..
2006-09-23 19:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by happy soul 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋