im dating a 52 yr old woman who has already gone thru menopause. her moods change from day to day sometimes minute to minute. she will not go to a dr and i have recommended using natural supplements and have offered to pay for them and she refuses. it is driving me nuts. also her grown daughter suffers from depression also. when she gets short with me do i take it or should i tell her shes being a b/@#$%
2006-09-23 12:35:55 · 6 answers · asked by keithy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If she's having that hormonal (and it still could be) emotional breakdown, you're best bet would be to NOT call her names. She'll just get irate. Try to remain calm and tell her to look at her own behavior at that moment and recognize that her emotions are out of control. Remind her that there are treatments that can help her feel better and be happy. Be sure to remind her that if she is prescribed a medication, it in no way means that she's "mentally ill" it's just something to help even her moods. Even though mental illness is a medical condition and not a personality flaw,the stigma is still there. Some people think that if they take medicine because of their "feelings" it makes them defective or some kind of pariah. I think she may be afraid of being seen as a nut case. You have to try to convince her that it is not how you would see it and neither should she.
2006-09-23 12:48:30 · answer #1 · answered by justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't tell her she is being a *****.....becuz even though that may be true, it will not yield the results you want. I would instead offer her information to begin with.... pamplets, info off the net (hardcopied) regarding depression and perhaps leave them where she will see them...... Or schedule her an appt with a female doctor and take her there yourself with the reassurance that you are just looking out for her best interests.......you want her to be well and be happy. Try also to have a sit down heart to heart with her explaining the effect her mood swings are having on the relationship and on you. You are trying your best to help her. Hopefully she will come around to realize that and be more proactive with her own mental well being/happiness. On another note, a bit of excercise on a consistant basis could make a big difference as well. I live in the North where we have 8 months of winter...short dark days. I dance once or twice a week year round, walk outside during summer months and visit a tanning salon in the winter. I am very suceptable to depression and I have learned this over the years. I have founds ways to counter act it that work for me. I'm not much of a pill taker so I resort to other ways. I am female and 44yrs old.
The very best of luck to you and Kudos for trying your best to help her!
2006-09-23 13:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by Janet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smoke a joint,hit the local pub for a beer together,and talk about buying a HARLEY together going riding and attending toy runs and such, you are both at the perfect age to get a 'traveling bike' HONDA makes a very nice collection!
Just Trust me on this!
2006-09-23 12:40:27 · answer #3 · answered by vanislandwitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want to get help I would bring her attention to the way she's acting. Just tell her to stop and listen to herself & realize how she's treating you.
2006-09-23 12:38:09 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont tell her that she's being like that. but you need to tell her she is being a little to emo. deal with it man. if you love her you'd help her as much as possible
2006-09-23 12:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by skull loner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
always be positive and give support. try to get family to help also... professional help is always an option; though it isn't always inexpensive...
2006-09-23 12:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by jeanne g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋