Well, he's my friend- & he likes me (BUT I DON'T!!!) So he asked me out, and I said "I'll think about it". Then I heard that he was gunna be really upset if I said no, (& I'll feel really bad, since he's done everything 4 me) So I HAD 2 say Yes. But then, I have this other guy (my ex), who likes me (and I like him too) (We're not officially together, but we kinda are (together)) And He said that I should just break up with my guy-friend, since I don't even like him that way. But I didn't want to, cuse' then he would be really upset... But since my ex REALLY wanted me 2 break up w/ my friend right-away, I did- & he ended up crying for the rest of the day whenever he saw me. And I felt bad. So I e-mailed him, saying that there's plenty of fish in the sea (to cheer him up or something), but he e-mailed me saying, "there may be many fish in the sea, but there is only one fish that is one of a kind and can never be replaced." AND NOW I FEEL HORRIBLE! Should I go out w/ him again?? PLZ HELP!
2006-09-23 12:31:39 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
To be honest with you, you should've never even went out with him in the first place if your feelings aren't the same way as his are to you. You should have been honest in the first place with him and now he's more hurt then if before you told him you only like him as a friend. You gave him the wrong impression that you had feelings for him and now he's heart broken. I advise that you just be honest with him now and tell him that it was never like that but remind him that he is still a great person and that you hope it doesn't ruin your friendship with him. Hope this helps!!! Good luck!
2006-09-23 12:38:26 · answer #1 · answered by Ms_Apple_Bttmz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction is, NO don't go out with him because you feel bad. you will continue to feel bad when you are out with him. If you don't like him "that way" going out with him isn't going to change that.
My second reaction is, Do you always do what your ex tells you. There must be a reason he is your ex. Did the reason he is your ex just go away, or is the problem still there.
My third reaction is, It surely doesn't matter what I think, you have to do what is good for you. Do not sacrifice your integrity, or honest with yourself making this decision.
Any decision you make should be what is best for you in the future. Not what's best for today, or tomorrow, but what is best for you and what is in your future. Give the whole situation some deep thought, honest feelings, and truthful answers.
I wish you the best with it.
2006-09-23 12:54:22 · answer #2 · answered by timernst1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. As difficult as it may be for him to realize right now, he will eventually meet someone who has the same feelings for him. Who knows, that may be you one day. But you are doing him a disservice to go out with him out of pity. It will destroy your friendship if you do, since friendships must be based on honesty, and you'll only end up resenting him in the end. He would actually end up resenting you in the end as well, since he would never get the satisfaction of knowing, truly knowing, that you were into him in that way, even if your feelings for him did end up growing - if you were to fake it right now. Everyone gets their heart broken at some time or another. Later on, you'll hold a special place in his heart as the girl who broke his heart first, and he'll look back fondly on you. It may seem horrible for him right now, but time cures all things, and you need to stay true to yourself.
2006-09-23 12:39:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe u should give him the old "I need you more as a friend to always be there for me and support, than a boyfriend that can jeopardize our friendship, I never want to lose you". Because If you go out with your best friend, it might be awkward and you wont be happy, and he won't be happy since you are not happy. Go out with your ex if you are ready to go back to him. But look at WHY he is your ex in the first place and make sure you want to go back with him. If not, just dont go out with either of them. I DEFINITELY SUGGEST DO NOT GO OUT WITH YOUR FRIEND
2006-09-23 12:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by figg7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just tell him the truth and even though you feel bad about it you might realize that it was the best thing to do because if he finds out that you got with him because you felt bad he is gonna feel like you did it because you felt sorry for him! I don't know why you and your ex broke up in the fisrt place but my best advice to you is just tell your guy frined the truth and you will feel so much better afterwards and i f your ex knows how you feel he should be abe to wait.
good luck!!
2006-09-23 12:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by Karolina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that you can do for your friend is leave him alone. Let him hurt and heal. He doesn't need you around to constantly remind him that he can't have you and to always see why he likes you anyway. Give the poor guy his space and when he's ready, when he's got his strength up, he may still want your friendship on his terms. Leave him alone if you want to spare his feelings.
2006-09-23 13:05:01 · answer #6 · answered by Janell W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!You shouldn't accept this game from the very beginning, because you knew that you don't feel anything for your friend.Always, remember it is better to hurt at the beginning, while the true feelings are not really developed.But you were wrong and now don't go out with him anymore, you will just hurt him more and don't give him hope.
2006-09-23 12:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO!! oh no. First off, if you didnt want to date him you shouldnt have gone out with him in the first place cause you're leading him on. Yeah, I know you're trying to spare his feelings, but just be upfront and honest. He may be hurt, but he'll get over it a helluva lot quicker than if you keep playing hot and cold with him.
2006-09-23 12:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by Jadeba12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What harm is there in going on one date with him,while out talk about how "you feel towards him" ie: just a friend...... when I was in my late teens and such I went on lots of dates I guess you could call them,to me at the time I was just heading out with a good friend for a good time, and my 'boy friends' just understood that nothing happened during 'these dates'.....
2006-09-23 12:37:08 · answer #9 · answered by vanislandwitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no do not
if u don't like him, just say no.
he should understand u if he's ur real friend. but if he doesn't what's a point of being w/ him anyway.
i was in the same situation, my friend (guy) asked me out, and i was too kind to say no. so we ended up not talking (he started being "shy"), an di just spended my nerves and time on him.
2006-09-23 12:37:58 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋