I've been married to a man i love dearly with all my heart, I have been faithful, and fulfilled my duties of being a house wife to the best of my ability. I cry almost every day b/c i'm not happy. I'm not saying I'm unhappy with my husband it's just he has a drinking problem, disrespects me, and hardly ever shows any attention to me. The problem is I love attention. I often feel as if he acts like i'm not even in the room. It hurts to much. I constantly ask him whats wrong why do you act as if you don't love me, I think I am driving him nuts asking so much but I'm going crazy as well. He doesn't try anymore when i try to talk to him he walks away from me. shuts doors in my face or ignores me. I'm in so much pain!!!! :( I love him so much we tried couseling but its like he has a wall up and he won't put it down to communicate. Is this a hopeless battle? I want this to work. I am a 23 year old woman raising his 3 kids from a previous marriage plus my 7 month old daughter i know i do good
2006-09-23 12:11:16 · 9 answers · asked by sweetie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"he has a drinking problem, disrespects me, and hardly ever shows any attention to me."
That's your answer. Do you deserve to be treated that way by a drunk? I'll answer for you: NO!
Get thee to alanon and a divorce attorney. In any order.
2006-09-23 12:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
II think you are hurting not only yourself but the 4 innocent children you care about. If you are crying and miserable everyday the kids are feeling it as well and this isnt good. I was in the same type of relationship and kept trying even though I was miserable. Finally I clued in and left and made myself, my children and my ex much happier. Give your husband an ultimatim! Tell him how miserable you are, how much you love him and that if things don't change NOW then you need to leave for your sake and the kids.
Good luck and do it for yourself and the children life is too short to be so miserable for anyone.
2006-09-23 12:20:07 · answer #2 · answered by buffybot67 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I DON'T KNOW. THIS IS A VERY TOUGH SITUATION BECAUSE YOU HAVE KIDS INVOLVED. PRAY AND ASK GOD TO GUIDE YOU IN MAKING THE RIGHT DECISIONS, AND DEFINITELY ASK FOR STRENGTH TO LEAVE IF THE SITUATION BECOMES PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE, BECAUSE THE KIDS DON'T NEED TO BE AROUND THAT TYPE OF ENVIRONMENT.
YOU'RE STILL YOUNG AND YOU NEED TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO WILL LOVE AND APPRECIATE YOU THE WAY THAT YOU DESERVE. ONE KID IS NOT AN ISSUE, MY COUSIN HAD 4 AND A MAN MARRIED HER A GAVE HER A WONDERFUL LIFE.
YOUR HUSBAND SEEMS TO BE A MISERABLE MAN. LET HIM ROT IN HIS OWN MISERY AND TELL HIM TO GO AND DRINK PIG'S VOMIT! YOU'RE TRYING TO HELP HIM RAISE "HIS" 3 KIDS FROM A PREVIOUS MARRIAGE...SEND THOSE EMPS BACK TO THEIR MOTHER, TELL HIM TO GO TO HELL, AND TAKE YOUR DAUGHTER AND GET OUT OF THERE BEFORE YOU END UP LOOKING LIKE A RACCOON (WITH 2 BLACK EYES)...MAC AND MAYBELLINE CAN'T FIX THAT!
2006-09-23 12:25:17 · answer #3 · answered by CHASE_ME 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to Al Anon immediately...do not wait another second! There are chapters everywhere. Go by yourself and stick with it. You will learn a lot there and perhaps to cope with what you are going through. Do NOT put this off. Good luck
2006-09-23 12:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out while you can! Nobody wants to be with an alcoholic! Don't waste years of your life being unhappy. YOuare too young. You got your whole life ahead of you
2006-09-23 12:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by confused 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Enough is never enough!! I just need a break for a minuet or so, then we can keep going & going & going... I can be just like the energizer bunny !
2016-03-27 05:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
now is enough. If you stay there and be unhappyyour gonna miss some of the best times of your life. Like I did.
2006-09-23 12:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
move on the drama isn't good for u or ur kids!
2006-09-23 12:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by ~Niecee~ âË» âË» ♂ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he won't talk there really is'nt too much you can do.
2006-09-23 12:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by trainer53 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋