We had a short but intensly spiritual relaionship a few years ago. We were perfect together in every way but our ages...17 yrs difference. And I was married at the time. (the marriage is soon to be over) We logically ended the affair and promised our families that we would have no contact w/ each other. He was my best friend. We still have mutual friends, & our families still talk, but it's as if we are dead to each other. I still love him like it was yesterday. I know we can never be together, our worlds are just to different. He is young, still single & has his carreer. I've lived enough & focus on my family & career. I've been able to watch his life from a distance... his family informs me of good news & I read his blog occationaly. Sometimes I wonder if there's messages there. I miss him so much. I'd love to move on, but sometimes I feel like I need to say goodbye or have closure. sometimes I fantasize we could be together years down the road. I think I'm nuts.
2006-09-23 12:04:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
At first we sent one message to each other thru a friend. "I miss you, I love you." The last words we sent to each other. But out of respect to each other & our promises... we have not sent any other messages. Any messages I have I given to his parents. As for his age... he's in his 20's & out of school. He's a gifted & talented person w/ a good heart. I wish all the best in the world for him, I just can't stop missing him. I do have children. Only one remembers him, in good ways.
2006-09-23 12:10:21 · update #1
Point your heart towards someone new.
2006-09-23 12:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he still feels the same then I think you 2 need to talk. Even if its just to announce your feelings. Love is a rare enough thing to find in a lifetime, and the age gap should not be the only reason you have decided to live a life without knowing if you would be happy together. I definitely think you need to talk to him, theres a lot needs to be said!
2006-09-23 19:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by Peter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find closure and you need to go to him and say your goodbye and make sure that is what you both want not what everyone else is telling you what you want. make sure you are out of your marriage before you meet with him, don't be in the same situation you were in before, make sure you are avaiable and do what makes you happy and again not what everybody else wants. Remember you have to live the life you choose so choose it carefully
2006-09-23 19:18:54 · answer #3 · answered by starz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing you are not going crazy. You are going through a phrase that you can't stop. Just every day breathe in and out and think of everything that
2006-09-23 19:12:38 · answer #4 · answered by shopperloverdrake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to go do other things and spend time with your girlfriends get all the stuff out that you look at and you think of him if you go to school try to find some cute guy and think about him try asking him out
2006-09-23 19:36:27 · answer #5 · answered by Madison 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Callhimandsort things out. It not healthy to keep weight on your brain
2006-09-23 19:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont care what people tell you ,only one way my friend that works and that is TIME ONLY.
2006-09-23 19:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by pirateron 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should just try to move on. . .
2006-09-23 19:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by helen. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋