I very rarely get to go out but tonight I met up with a friend for 3 hours. My BF dropped me off at 8pm , our daughter was doing a poo in her nappy when he dropped me off. I come home at 11 and the house is a tip, he's drunk and my daughter still has a poo filled nappy on, asleep on the couch & our other daughter is asleep in her clothes still. When he comes home, the house and kids are spotless. I told him he was selfish when I came home and he said I'm starting an arguement and I'm unreasonable???
2006-09-23 12:02:18 · 24 answers · asked by Gypsie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is usually a great dad ......honestly!
2006-09-23 12:12:05 · update #1
there's no excuse for leaving a baby in a soiled nappy.. and getting drunk...and you say he`s normally a great dad?..then maybe this is more to do with your relationship and he`s trying to control you by acting that way he knows you may think twice about going out..maybe he just wants you to be her in doors and doesn't want you going out with friends in case you get up to something..obviously i don't know the full extent of your relationship...but you need a serious talk with him about his actions
2006-09-23 12:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by seeclearlynow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter was asleep, she obviously was not uncomfortable. You say your other daughter was also asleep. Good. .........The more worrying fact is that your BF was drunk. Should there have been an incident, i.e. need to go to a hospital, which often is the case with young children, would he have been able to deal with the situation? Probably NOT. He could possibly have lost his driving licence too, that is much more worrying than a dirty nappy!!!. However you need to sit down with your BF when he is sober and tell him how that incident made you feel. You feared (possibly) that he was not in command of the babysitting situation. you would really be better getting a babysitter in if you want to go out and perhaps both have the same time "off". At least you can then relax. Good Luck.
2006-09-23 12:17:26 · answer #2 · answered by biggi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no doubt about it. He's usless. He cant be trusted to be left alone with the kids. And he's not very responcible either. And he then expects you to do everything for him. Relationships do not work like that. I help my wife with everthing and she has her freedom. Well that was b4 i found out that she had been having an affair. But in your case. You realy need to hive your relationship a lot of thought. Good luck. Living with a person like that. You may need it.
2006-09-24 00:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a relationship with two kids and if I were you I would walk isnt that boarder line neglect I would have packed up and my kids and left. in my relationship the kids come before the adults and my man would never ever do that. There is someone out there that will value their time with your kids obviously he doesnt and if you leave he may realize he better straighten up and you might give him a second chance.
2006-09-23 12:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by Aries Girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, he's committing an act of neglect - if he is treating the kids like that I am guessing he treats you worse, you can do better on your own. Believe me, kick his sorry *** out before he drains all of your energy/self esteem/ and looks! He is a danger to who you are, even if not you physically, run while you are still young enough to build a new life for yourself with the kids x
2006-09-23 12:06:57 · answer #5 · answered by pendlewrenn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be pissed! Wow! My Hubby would be spending the night on the streets if he did something like that to my kid! How could he do something like that? I am not helping at all am I? No, you are not being unreasonable! If anything you are being way too nice by letting him stay around, if in fact you have allowed him too...
2006-09-23 12:06:22 · answer #6 · answered by yoohoosusie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would be furious with him! he sounds totally useless.
u are not unreasonable, he is.
he could have at least changed the nappy and got the kids in their night clothes and off to bed.
he also shouldnt be drunk and in charge of children!
wot a looser!
2006-09-23 12:32:04 · answer #7 · answered by crophilia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drunk in charge of a small child = unreasonable, no question
2006-09-23 12:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by rtofts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason between men and women. Men may do these things if they are told, but will never think these things on their own. He realizes these things must be done and thinks you'll be home in time to do them.
Is there any reason in this, but cest la vie.
I pity you, if you think he will be you when you are not home, get a sitter.Let him pay for it.
Even though you are right. It will never be.
2006-09-23 12:10:42 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my opinion? I don't think either of you are unreasonable, I mean, on your side, there's the daughters and the being drunk thing. Telling someone that he is selfish must have really hurt him.. I think he just blurt it out by accident. I don't think he meant it. After all, it was 11.. you guys must have been tired or something.
2006-09-23 12:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by ateshobe 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋