i really want to get over and start a new life as a single...i just dont know how to start..i dont want to go dating coz im afraid i get hurt again...
i just want to stop the pain and have fun without guys for now...give me some idea...pls.........
2006-09-23 11:56:27 · 8 answers · asked by capricorn girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was divorced eight years ago just hang with your friends if your not ready there is nothing wrong with that. Dont just start dating because your alone or you could hurt the next one. Just keep your friend and family on speed dial when you need to let your feelings out. Go out enjoy the single life for awhile and dont let any one force you in a relationship that you are not ready for
2006-09-23 12:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by Aries Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually i am going through this myself so i am in the same boat as u. However, i heard someone say not to look for a man right away. Take u'r time, have a lot of friends and don't get married for about 2 years, because statistically marriages that occur 2 years after marriage end. So, first find u'rself and heal, so that u can be healthy enough to start another relationship and make sure that that other person is also healthy. Just have fun for now.
2006-09-23 15:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mir3lla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a person who has been happily divorce for the past 9 months now it was hard at first and for fun I was with my Girl Friends I did a lot of girls night out until my heart was healed and I was ready to date again now I am dating a great guy much better then my ex hub UGH so hang in there for time really does heal all wounds HUGS
2006-09-23 11:58:51 · answer #3 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out with your friends, go to the bar to have a good time, not to meet people. Take a drive. Do something that you said you would do with your husband, but never did, like take that cruise or vacation you always wanted to. Go skydiving, hit up the roller coasters, start an excersize regime.
Dont be afraid of being hurt again, take all the time you need, but in the big picture it truly is better to have loved someone and lost that love, than to have never loved anyone at all.
2006-09-23 12:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by Gary 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the right attitude about what you want to do. Follow your heart for the time being and do what you want to do. Learn to be self sufficient and descriminating in your tastes for the men in your life. Live and do for yourself what you thought we men could do for you but didn't and you will see that it gets easier as you go. Insofar as hurting, that too will pass and will happen again and again at one time or another, it's a fact of life. Sorry, but that is just as it is...
2006-09-23 12:04:32 · answer #5 · answered by GUILLERMO U 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time and go slowly. there is no rush and if go full on into dating anyone you'll only get hurt again. Try joining a group or do some volunteer work to get your mind of it.
2006-09-23 12:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by cino_bean 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just go out with your friends and enjoy their company and talk about it it will soon start to be a distant memory
but no dates as you will only end up getting hurt there is plenty of time for dates later
2006-09-23 12:07:17 · answer #7 · answered by JAMES OY 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can join with a good service that does background checks and matches you. Most of them have events and activities to do. I tried that after trying the bar scene with much disappointment.
2006-09-23 12:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by Bill C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋