Should I give up my baby??

Question

I am 15 and my daughter is due in 3 weeks. My mom is supportive, but I am still not sure what I should do, because I on't want to ruin mine or the baby's life.

Answer 1

she might b a littl hurt when she grows up thinking her real mom didnt love her enough to keep her...theres no real way to not ruin your life....you kinda ruined it the moment u had sex, but that doesnt mean u cant fix it...if u choose to give her up...visdit her often, and try to be in her life as much as possible when she starts to grow up.....good luck!

Answer 2

I am 23 years old and I have lost my first baby last month. My husband has a little cousin who is pregnant at 15 and due in December. I would love to just straggle her. I think it is great that you are taking so responsiblity for your baby. It is being smart by thinking about your future and your baby's future. I can't tell you to give it up or to keep it. If you think that your baby would be better supported by letting a family adopt it that can't have children then maybe you should. There are a great deal of people out there that would give their everything for a baby. I am in that group I lost mine and don't know that I will be able to have another one. If you mom is going to be there emotionally and finanically and you are going to strive to do the best that you can for the baby then maybe you should keep it. Only you know your families financial and emotional situations. I wish you the best. Take into consideration the life of your child and your life. Make the decision that will allow both of you to succeed.

Answer 3

This is a decision that only you can make, we can only give our opinion about the matter. If you think you could live with the fact that someone else is going to raise a baby in which you brought into this world then by all means put it up for adoption but if you think that you will regret that and later want the baby back then keep the baby because that will hurt not only you but the nice family who adopted the baby. My cousin kept her baby and she also had her son at 15 and to be honest she doesn't do crap, but there is this girl at my school who was about 16 and she now goes to school, has a job and is a mom all at the same time. I believe you could do it, but you have to believe you could do it. Your mom is supportive, and that is something not all moms are, so your lucky. I know it will be hard, but once you hold your baby in your arms and you realize that she/he is yours your not going to want to him/her go. Having a baby doesn't really ruin your life it just makes it harder to achieve your goals and get to where you want to be. But its still possible to live your life and take care of a baby in the process. I'm going to give you a my space thing for a person that I don't actually know but she is the person i mentioned earlier that is taking care of her own baby while finishing highschool and working. so check it out. I hope i help and if you want to talk e-mail me through yahoo answers.....:)

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Answer 4

I had my first child at 15 and my mother was also there for me and whatever I chose to do. The end result was a beautiful baby girl. I'm not going to say it won't be hard and that at times you won't have a struggle. But if you want to keep yours and make a life for you and her then go for it. Just remember to stay in school and finish high school. Then consider college next. It may not be easy but its well worth it. My daughter is 13 this year and I couldn't see my life without her in it. I'm just very blunt in my ways of educating her on learning from the wrongs mom did rather then repeating them. Good luck with you and your daughter.

Answer 5

I'll adopt it! :) Seriously, look into adoption. You can choose open adoption where you are still a part of the baby's life, and they'll know who you are. Or a closed adoption where until the child's 18 they won't be able to find out about you. You should be commended for being so responsible! You are acting very mature, and I'm impressed with you! A baby is going to change your life from here on out, and there's no going back. I'd make a decision quick (but obviously it's a huge decision and shouldn't be rushed), it'll be harder for you to give her up if you taker her home first. Find support groups because either way you're going to need people to help you through this process. Like I said I'm always up to adopt. (I'm getting licensed to be a foster parent, and as such I'll be first to adopt the babies I work with). But honestly, I am very impressed with you. You should be proud of yourself. And remember no matter what decision you make, it was the right thing to do for you, so don't let ANYONE tell you otherwise!

Answer 6

I kept my baby and im 14 but if u think ur baby will have a better life with another family then its probably best that u do give her up for adoption. you could always try to get an open adoption where u can still visit the baby every once and a while. email me if u need someone to talk to, ive been there. good luck

Answer 7

sweety all people r entitled to a mistake although u need to follow your heart babe if u want to give her up theres so very many that cant have kids u would be taken care of so well and financially too but kinda seems to me mom would b let down at this point I'm a grandma to and i would b devastated sounds like shes gonna help u lots of young mom r out there and oh hunny daughters r so wonderful maybe sweety ask ur self this could u go thru life every year and on her birthday be normal feeling and think of all the things u 2 could do together oh id keep her besides id imagine alot of people think u r going to i think it would be to hard on you mentally many young women like you have survived this good luck bless u and your family keep the little angel u never regret your children no matter what hunny hugs sandy

Answer 8

i think its wrong for people to assume you should give up your daughter. If you have any doubt than I would say no dont get rid of her. You may have some difficulty but with a supportive mother you will be able to get through the tough times. My friend kept her son she had at 15 and he is now a happy healthy 7 year old little boy who loves his mommy to pieces! Sure they had rough times, but her mother was always there for her and they are doing wonderfully. You dont want to do anything you will regret, and if you have doubt, you may regret it when you think about what could have been.

Answer 9

You need to do whats right for yourself and your daughter.... Go speak to a councillor. This isnt something that Yahoo answers can help you on. The people who tell you to give her away dont know what your life is like, what support you have. Have these people been through the same situation?

I have a son but I was older (32) so my choice was a simple one.

Speak to someone that can really help you, I dont want to give you any advise on what you should or shouldnt do. But look deep into your heart.

Good luck

Answer 10

wow that's tough.....That's something u and ur mom need to seriously discuss, especially because u r a minor. Also u didn't mention if the father or father's family is involved at all. At least u r considering the baby's future and not being selfish. I had my 1st child at the age of 18. It was tough. But seriously think of the emotional and physical aspects of your decision. Base ur decision on what's truly in ur heart. Good Luck

Answer 11

Im 16 and my daughter is also due in 3 weeks....but i am keeping my baby. i dont look at it as ruining mine or the baby's life. its a gift that i was given and im going to accept it with open arms.