Ok, here it is...
A good close male friend of mine is becoming a lot more "close" to me, its quite obvious to me that he wants more than just friendship as do i....but there's a major problem that comes in the way (something that means there is 0 chance of us ever being together) - i didnt want to mention this but im going to get an arranged marriage you see, but he wont.
We both know there is no chance, yet for some reason slowly our friendship keeps progressing...
Now i know that i can prevent anything from happening, i can even stop myself getting emotionally attached to him, but im not too sure about him
He knows the consequences but he still seems to take things further, as if he cant stop himself - like talking and texting a lot more, getting involved in my life - getting attached! He is willing to take that risk - what shall i do? I can tell that he really doesnt want to ruin my future but he cant resist.
I dont want to lose him as a friend, i really dont!
2006-09-23 11:37:52 · 7 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Physically and mentally he's a tough guy - but emotionally he's so fragile...
2006-09-23 11:39:51 · update #1
Sweetie, as long as you want to keep true to your arranged marriage you have two options, you can either stop the arranged marriage and suffer the consequences, or put an end to a wonderful friendship. Nobody knows what the future may hold, you have to follow your heart and your dreams, but know that by following your heart you may lose a very good friend. You speak of how attached he is becoming to you, and not too much of how attached to him you are becoming but if you too are attached to him and love him and want something more with him, go for it and forget the arranged marriage.
Follow your heart, although someone might get hurt, life will go on, slowly but surely for that person, all that you can ask is that you be happy and at peace with yourself.
2006-09-23 11:40:15 · answer #1 · answered by Gary 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart - if you search inside yourself truthfully, the answer is there and will reveal itself. If you truly want the arranged marriage, you must accept that you may lose this guy - sad though it is, life is a chain of meetings and partings and that is natural. But if you truly want this guy and not your arranged marriage, you must grab it while you have the opportunity - true love is a rare commodity and I would place it above your "obligations". Good luck!
2006-09-23 12:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disobey your parents and bollox to the arranged marriage! you never know who you will be arranged to marry and he could be a total c**t!
Do what your heart tells you - even if your parents don't approve or may possibly disown you. Its your life, live with the consequences baby!
Good Luck :)
2006-09-23 13:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by happy soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you accepting an arranged marriage? it is 2006 and things have changed, you also live in Britain so you do have choices. My husband was meant to have an arranged marriage, he didn't and we are together 20 yrs, think who you want before you commit.
2006-09-23 20:23:42 · answer #4 · answered by pottydotty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok thank you that helps now! well like i said before talk to him and he will understand!
2006-09-23 11:40:20 · answer #5 · answered by Double A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do what you feel is right
2006-09-24 00:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by NetNet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
" yawn "..............................
2006-09-23 11:40:28 · answer #7 · answered by pat.rob00 Chef U.K. 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋