2006-09-23 11:37:27 · 16 answers · asked by tarafarrah 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I'm 18 now but I had sex when I was 15 years old, I'm still with the same guy though. I actually told my mom that I wanted to have sex and that I was going to become sexually active, I didn't wait until after I had sex. She took me to get on birth control and was very helpful as well as supportive. It's easier if she knows because if something goes wrong at all or isn't right then you can just go to her about it and you won't have to sneak around to any doctors appointments that you'll need to go to, she can take you and actually help calm you down for any of your appointments no matter what's being done.
I really suggest that you tell her though, that would be the responsible thing to do.
2006-09-26 12:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by Animal Lover and Owner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good idea to tell your mother. She must not be so old-fashioned or judgmental for you to think about telling her. I have a 15-year old daughter and I am glad that she confided in me. You will need to say it so as not to feel that you're a bad girl keeping things from your mom. She may wish you had been older (I wish my daughter waited longer) and she may wish that you had told her before the fact, but ultimately she will be happy that you are sharing this very important milestone with her. You will need her too because once you're sexually active, you need to be seen by a doctor. You need to be very well-informed of how not to catch any disease and not to get pregnant. Tell her one day when she is calm and not stressed out from work that you have something very private that you would like to share with her, and want to know when would be a good time to do so. She might want to know right away, so even to ask for that, chose your timing carefully. Then just start speaking...
2006-09-23 18:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by browneyedgirl 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You should tell her straight up. Keep in mind that this is the kind of thing that a mother might have a heart attack over (so-to-speak) so sit her down and tell her. Try to explain why you did it and why you felt like you needed to. She'd probably ask, with who? did they force themself on you? are you pregnant (boys case: is she pregnant?) and so on so be honest. but be prepared for consequences later on. Because not just because you had sex doesn't make you an adult.
2006-09-23 19:32:08 · answer #3 · answered by nymphette13 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Man oh man. I have a 13 year old daughter and I would be so sad if she told me. It would have been better if you would have waited but you can't go back. You really have to get yourself checked out by a doctor to make sure you aren't pregnant and to rule out any STD's. I wouldn't advise you to tell your mom. I'm sure she wouldn't be happy for you. Go to Planned Parenthood and they'll be able to counsel you and give you straight advice on anything you need to know about birth control, intercourse, etc. Good luck honey !
2006-09-24 02:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by vik 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Like i have just read in the messages you have already received! somethings are just best kept to yourself, you are 15 your mum still will not understand and will only want what she believes is best for you, but in most cases mums will over react and as long as you are being careful and responsible for your actions then why disappoint the ones you love......
2006-09-23 19:47:06 · answer #5 · answered by Kirstie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm seriously hoping the exclamation point is supposed to represent a 1.
2006-09-23 18:45:12 · answer #6 · answered by mctfelton 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you tell your mom you know she will have a hard time trusting you again. If you are not pregnant don't tell her and wait until you are older to do it again.
2006-09-24 02:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by King Midas 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All you can do is be honest.I also suggest you go to a free clinic for birth control,condoms,and someone for you to talk to about pregnancy and s.t.d.'s.
2006-09-23 19:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by Celebrity girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say, Mom, we won't be needing a white wedding dress anymore. She'll be so happy and proud of you.
2006-09-23 18:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by EMAILSKIP 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why did you do it in the first place, why do you need to tell her? Are you pregnant? If so, tell her as soon as possible, just confront her and tell her slowly what you did. Good luck.
2006-09-23 18:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by Momo 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋