My fiancé' and I have been together for five years and we moved back to the town we grew up in. He wants to move away and is miserable here, but I want to stay. I have told him that I want for both of us to be happy and if that means him moving away to enjoy life then he should. I'm afraid that he is only staying not to hurt me. I don't know what else to do. Is he trying to tell me something more or is he just restless?
2006-09-23 11:37:26 · 11 answers · asked by chella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to first and foremost understand why he's miserable in that area. I say this b/c unfortunately it's hard to keep a 'Christian singer, and a Hard Core Rock singer' together. (If you get my analogy.)
You guys need to talk about this. This is a priority A thing. He is going to wilt, and eventually become bitter if moving is something he has to have for his personality. ie there are city people, and there are country people, and then there are the extremes.
Communication, communication, communication!
2006-09-23 11:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by Heart of Plat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A major challenge. You two move then youre unhappy and you two stay then hes unhappy with no real compromise available here. You just have to decide whether youd be happy without him or with him and where you two would move to. He might just feel a change is needed and change is good. To force him to stay will only cause problems later, so chances are hes staying to please you but in reality he wants to move. Tough decision. Good luck
2006-09-23 18:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a particular reason for living where you are like a very sick parent or grandparent that is different. Otherwise, you need to decide if living in a certain place is more important to you than your future happiness as a married couple.
2006-09-23 18:44:00 · answer #3 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough call. Im going to have to go with having a threesome to get him to stay. Enjoy that experience. Here, have some.
2006-09-23 18:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he moved for a reason the first time. and if you both cant find a place that you are both happy it may be time to let him go
2006-09-23 18:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by gsschulte 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wants to move, then you should move with him, couples need to compromise with eachother, that's how marriage is like, you need to compromise with eachother to make eachother happy, because couples have their similiarities and differences, the only way to work on the differences is to compromise, so if he wants to move then move with him, you'll be happy that he's happy.
2006-09-23 18:40:34 · answer #6 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask for the reason or reasons why he is miserable there.
2006-09-24 15:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the ring and run. pawn the ring and forget about him.
2006-09-23 18:42:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
one word.... COMPROMISE!
You need to learn how to do that NOW, because thats what marriage is alllllll about.
2006-09-23 18:40:29 · answer #9 · answered by Melia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to answer you honestly
2006-09-23 18:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋