I am twenty one and recently had a beautiful baby girl.. Number 2 for me. I met my bf when i was pregnant with my first son. we have been togather since. we broke up twice in 3 years just because i lost interest. I love him crazy and i dont know why it happpens. But for the last few months every thing he does annoys me. even stupid things like the way he chews or the way he sleeps. i am going crazy. I dont know what to do. I feel like if something doesnt change i will leave him again. Why is it like this? what can i do to avoid this.
2006-09-23 11:22:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
k well first off i am not immature. I got pregnant at sixteen and completley grew up. But if you think i am immature dont answer my question. I am just wondering why it seems like i fall in love and then back out of it? is that normal. I love him and always will but it just seems like i fall out of being in love with him does that make sense?
2006-09-24 05:54:57 · update #1
it's the hormones!!
2006-09-23 11:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by gabby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You were in a vulnerable state when he came into your life. When a woman is pregnant there are certain imbalances that alters their actions. You were single and about to bring in a child alone. You were just happy that you dived in without the process of eliminating what were real feelings. We all do it! There is either lust at first sight, strong rebounds after heart break, or we try to create a love we never had. Now you are starting to come down off of that high and seeing what you mentally blocked yourself from seeing. My advice is to now assess him and if that is not what you can even consider yourself to be happy with, leave him!
2006-09-23 18:29:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will have to decide whether you really love him enough to put up with his annoying habits, although everyone has habits that annoy their partners, it is just a case of is the grass greener somewhere else or not? It may be that you are just bored with your life at the moment so find some hobby or something that you really like to do, and if you can do it together, all the better.
2006-09-23 18:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by mitty 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you guys get in a lull a routine and it bores you being that your so young you may feel restless of what else is out there next time he starts to annoy you just walk away from him and start to remember what made you fall for this guy in the 1st place when you start to remember that and not concerating on his annoying habits you will see him in a new light again and remember why your in love with him in the 1st place good luck
2006-09-23 18:25:07 · answer #4 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First thing, get on the pill so you don't bring any more children into this world without the benefit of a emotionally stable marriage and parents.
Second thing is grow up, you want to leave because of the way somebody chews or sleeps. Get real, this guy obviously loves you or he wouldn't put up with your leaving and coming back.
2006-09-23 18:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1) be sure to talk to your doctor. You've had 2 children in what looks to be a short amount of time. Your hormones could be whacked.
2) You've broken up twice in three years because you've lost interest. You both need to either commit to the relationship and work hard at it or you need to split. If you do the latter, be sure to cover yourself legally and share child rearing
3) Stop having children with him until you're sure.
2006-09-23 18:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by booktender 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YOU'RE IN A RUT! Spice it up. try to imagine what it would be like if he weren't there to annoy you......you would miss all the things that are making you nuts right now. Don't worry it's just a phase - try to ride it out.
If you really can't stand it, then snap and bark at him for every little annoying thing he is doing and maybe he will "scoot" on his own......with hurt feelings possibly.
No body is perfect - not a one of us.
2006-09-23 18:29:56 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you think that the problem is your boyfriend?You seem to be unable to commit to a relationship.If you really love him or want to stay with him,talk to him about how you feel. If not start looking for #3and #4and#5 etc.
2006-09-23 18:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by PRINCESS 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may be the result of raging hormones after having had the baby.
Talk to your doctor, there are many medications that can help...
2006-09-23 18:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its a stage you go throe after you give birth my mum was like that with my dad.it is perfectly natural nothing to worry about .just calm down
2006-09-23 18:27:53 · answer #10 · answered by pinky 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definately hormones.........get some medicine.
2006-09-23 20:35:45 · answer #11 · answered by Faith In The House 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋