I'm a freshman in college and I'm needing to meet people. Give me a good answer not just a stupid one like "go out" or "talk". 10 points goes to the best advice!
2006-09-23 11:11:34 · 8 answers · asked by shortee807 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
BE OUT. I know it sounds obvious, but when you're lonely/don't have any friends, it seems easy and comforting to just kind of hang out in your dorm. If you're studying, go to the coffeeshop or sit outside. If you have time to kill between classes, hang out on campus. It can be kind of intimidating to not have anything to do in public alone, but don't use the defense mechanisms like text messaging or something like that.
Also, all of those RA-sponsored things and stuff do, of course, seem lame, but who cares. They might be helpful. Even if they're not, there will be more people kind of out and around on the night when something like that is happening. You can even meet up with someone and dish about how lame these school-sponsored activities are if that better suits your fancy.
Class is good too. It's a really easy way to start talking to someone, and even exchange email addresses or phone numbers. That kind of thing really easily leads into an actual friendship.
Whenever anyone on your floor or whatever is going somewhere and you are available, GO!!! Even if it's something stupid like seeing a movie that you don't want to, or going to a party when that's not really your thing, just do it. There is a good chance that you will meet someone who also isn't that into the planned event. If nothing else, it will give you some kind of distraction from being by yourself.
I have moved around a lot. Making friends is hard (at least for me). It's also pretty good to remember that it's pretty easy to make superficial friends, but it really does take a year or so of living somewhere to have real, good friends.
2006-09-23 12:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
To make friends, be a friend :) That means, speaking up in class, setting up study groups, smiling at people you pass, accepting more invitations than you turn down, keeping your door open in your dorm, joining clubs and groups that interest you, getting involved with a sport, and generally putting yourself out in the mix of things where people will get to see your pretty face! The most important thing to do is not worry and continue being yourself. Every other freshman on campus is going through THE EXACT SAME THING and are also looking for friends. In fact, I'd have to say the freshman year of college may be the easiest year in terms of making new friends and meeting new people. You'll do fine!
--for additional help, don't run out of class right away, there are always some folks standing around talking or trying to get the teacher's attention..TALK TO THEM.
--the RA's at your school will probably have stuff (like movie nights or parties) go to them! :)
2006-09-23 18:38:53 · answer #2 · answered by satriela 1 · 10⤊ 0⤋
i would try to join some on campus groups, get a job on campus, some of the outting and science clubs at my college are great, u could also try to sit with new peole during lunch( with out neglecting ur friends u already have) if u live in a dorm leave ur door open when ur inside and say hi to anyone who walks by or hang out in the hall it's self in my doorm hall we do the craziest funnest things and it help to get to know each other rather than throwing a ball aroung a cricle and saying everyones name, above all just have fun!!!!!!!!
2006-09-23 18:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by Big L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, u must be yourself! At start be friendly to everyone and as the time goes by, you`ll see who is worth being your friend.... Don`t be shy to approach people u like .... And at the end, try to have fun as much as u can!
2006-09-23 18:17:12 · answer #4 · answered by malena 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Clubs are probably the best bet. Academic or otherwise.
Keggers and house parties usually lead to incoherent conversations forgotten by one or both parties by the next morning.
2006-09-23 18:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by buzzfeedbrenny 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
keep your dorm room door open. when people walk by in the hall they'll peek in, or you can call out to them. it's a good way to meet people.
2006-09-23 18:17:18 · answer #6 · answered by donlockwood36 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
being involved in school clubs or organizations would be the best start--look for someone who looks like someone you'd want to know and strike up conversation--be yourself, and don't try to impress
2006-09-23 18:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by phyllis_neel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself and if people dont like you then its there loss just dont care wont other people think and youll have friends in no time
2006-09-23 18:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by green day fan 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋