Hi am 23 years old and have a six year old step-son , a second cousin who is 4 years old names she is a girl i have custody of her at this time, and 12 month old son . My husband 28 years old is a vet who works for his father practice and i am a zoologist who works partime at the zoo. We have 4 dogs, 1 cat, 1 domesticated skunk, 1 bunny rabit, 1 lizard , 1 turtle, 2 mice, 1 african gray parrot, and a Squirrel. I think we have to many animals and i feel exuasted all the time and do not want to have sex anyymore. How do i try to tell him i need help i cant go on like this!?
2006-09-23 10:49:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have tried bringing it up before but he just ignores me and wants to be left alone when he is home because he is too tiered to help!but expect dinner on the table.Therapy just made him more lazy!
2006-09-23 10:52:36 · update #1
He just says he loves all the animals too much.
2006-09-23 10:53:24 · update #2
I still am feeling resentful of the affair he had to top it all off!!
2006-09-23 11:00:09 · update #3
I only work part time and i graduated college at 21 yrs old
2006-09-23 11:10:37 · update #4
So no i am not a full fleged zoooligist yet but in 2 months i will be!
2006-09-23 11:14:04 · update #5
I have no idea how to exit this one...
2006-09-23 11:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say it's either the animals or you all move out, but present it as a matter of health. Sure you can take care of all those animals, but you work, you have those children, you have a house, you have him...and no help from him. So if he and the kids (who are too young) cannot help with anything, then some of the animals need to go to another safe happy home and live. Clearly you all don't have allergies, but it's affecting your sex life and probably other aspects. Just try again to tell him. I hate to say it, but start leaving some things undone or incomplete if you have to....
2006-09-23 10:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, you need far more help than anyone here can give you. Professional therapy for you AND your husband, and adopting out some of those animals will be a good start. And at 23 you are a bit young to have THIS much responsibility. You must be just out of college so I don't see how you could already be a fulll-fledged zoologist; that usuallly takes more than four years, but if you say so.
2006-09-23 11:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to set a schedule..from work and family time.. if that does work you NEED to sit down and talk with your husband about hiring help am sure he would start listening to what you have to say and if he doesn't then hire someone part time to help you around the house..or simply volunteer.. Young teens might enjoy doing something different.. Yes you need help before you burn off.. Please try to find some peace within.. Communication is the only thing you have that can keep your marriage together has a whole.. too much mess will kill it.. over loaded.. you need to release.. good luck.. change your household structure before its too late
2006-09-23 11:03:05 · answer #4 · answered by M M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask. Hire a maid. You have way too many animals. Take some to the zoo and the rest to a shelter. It's too much work with 3 kids. What happens if you get sick? Who will pick up the load? Ask him that. You may have to go on strike. Let him handle it for a couple of days and see how he manages.
I love animals too but I wouldn't let them take over my life.
2006-09-23 10:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
three children is enough kick the animals out but keep the Husband j/k
tell ur man you need some ME time and let him take the cake for a while dont give him a chance to answer just go for a hour or two
2006-09-23 11:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by ez-goin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to sit down and have a talk with him.You have 2 many animals and need to get rid of them i can understand keeping a few but not all of them. Kids take most of your time up if not all of your time. Good luck!
2006-09-23 11:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by BadAssGirlINWV 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but there's no way I could live with all them animals around my kids. Either those animals go or my kids and I go and he better decide real fast which are more important to him.
2006-09-23 10:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are they all in the house, I'm sorry but animals need to be outside and not too many, please get help before your marriage suffers bad like mine did, talk with your spouse before it turns to a train wreck. I was raised to keep animals outside, that how us native americans live. but we are all raised different.
2006-09-23 11:45:39 · answer #9 · answered by mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change him. You can only change yourself.
Get therapy for you so you can figure out the changes you need to make.
Sometimes, if you're lucky, if you change the way you act others follow suit.
2006-09-23 10:55:38 · answer #10 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No kidding. who would looking after the animal population, as well as the kids,tell him you need help. and explain exactly what, who, and why. if there is no sex, he will quickly come up with an answer
2006-09-23 10:55:07 · answer #11 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋