i hate my stepdad. especially since him and my mom force me to call him dad.
2006-09-23 10:44:49 · 18 answers · asked by Lorraine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You should not be FORCED to call anyone dad who is not your real father! "Dad" is the person you love, who loves you. Who you treat with respect and who treats you with respect. If you do not like this man you should not have to call him dad.
Have your mom e-mail me, I'll have a little talk with her!
2006-09-23 10:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well since you have to live with this person the best answer would be to find some way to change your feelings about this man.
Talk to your Mom one-on-one and let her know how bad it makes you feel to call him "Dad". I understand how you feel, you have only one Dad and that is your Father. If your mom has any snap at all this should be an easy fix.
Then have a talk with both of them and let them know that you will show more respect to them or him if he/they show you more respect. That you understand that they are the parents and you only want to have peace in the relationship.
The only other advice I would give if all that fails, is to try and stay away from stepdad and only go to Mom for things you need or want to do.
Good Luck
2006-09-23 10:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by Rocky99 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a tough one. No child should be force to call someone dad who isn't their dad.
However, forcing the issue won't help your situation. You need to sit down with HIM preferrably and explain to him that although you acknowledge him as your mothers husband you just don't feel comfortable with calling him dad. You hope that the two of you can build a positive relationship but ask him how positive can it be if it is forced. Just talk to him in a calm and respectful manner. He may not respond just the way you want him to but I guarantee you that if you stay calm and respectful he will walk away from the conversation thinking about it.
If you can't discuss this with him man to man then go to your mother in the same manner described above. If this doesn't work maybe go to your father.
Are there other reasons why you hate him? You need to find a way to work through these reasons and find ways to get along. Otherwise life will just be misereable for everyone. Try talking to your school counsilor. You need to discuss this with someone who is trained to handle it... not just your friends who are going to tell you what you want to hear.
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Someone said "Trust me, if you move out, your relationship will be a lot better with both your mom and stepdad."
This really depends on how old you are and how you handle moving out. Trust me... if you don't do it the right way it will not help your situation. This was really bad advice.
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More really bad advice..."Tell your mom he abuses you, poison his food, steal from him... There's plenty of ways to get rid of him, just be creative"
This will only bring trouble to you. Never try to solve a wrong with another wrong. Then you just have double trouble. (for real)
Good luck!
2006-09-23 10:53:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I just left home. No sense in sticking around. I was always blamed for things and had to do all the cleaning in the house.
Trust me, if you move out, your relationship will be a lot better with both your mom and stepdad.
Good Luck!
2006-09-23 10:50:46 · answer #4 · answered by Angela F 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why call him dad? Where is your birth dad? If he is in the picture tell him what is going on. You could also sleep with you stepdad and I bet he lets you call him bitc*. Good luck.
2006-09-23 11:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have a friend that hates her stepdad, she tried to kill him by giving him an overdose of tylenol
but, anyway if your young, and they do that that is serious.
what you need to find out is why they are so eager for you to call him dad.
is he really a father figure to you?
or is he that much of an assh***?
if i were you i would try to pull my mother to the side and talk to her azz because thats the b.s.
2006-09-23 10:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My stepdad is the same. they try to make me call him dad. once i totally snapped i told (yelled) at him that he was only a step and that i could alays get rid of him. email me about this issue at colemarie94@yahoo.com
2006-09-23 10:48:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone once told me that "Any man can be a father, all it takes is a moment or two of passion. The title of 'DAD' has to be earned". If he is truly trying to "earn" it, give him encouragement, and maybe someday ,he'll feel like Dad to you. If he's juat looking for a title, try "Pops", or "Papa" or "Daddio" or some other title, and save the "DAD" for the one you feel deservs it.
2006-09-23 11:04:42 · answer #8 · answered by Dottie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be nice, smile, call him dad (even if you hate it) and he will wonder what you are up to.
He probably won't give you any crap then. That way things will improve and you all will be happier.
2006-09-23 10:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by I'm alive .. still 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call your real dad and let him know what the situation is.
2006-09-23 11:06:34 · answer #10 · answered by masterrforu 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋