i found out i am the result of a 1 night stand, i hate my mother and step father for lying to me for 13 years....my real fathers a criminal and a druggie but my step dad is a jerk and a liar....i hate them both equally though it sounds weird...i am so confussed...what should i do?
2006-09-23 10:33:17 · 11 answers · asked by soccer chicka 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Hate is a strong burden to carry. The one who will receive the worst from that is you.You will learn as you grow up that being an adult is certainly not easy, to say the least. If you were born from a one night stand is proof enough that your parents were not ready and prepared to adequately raise a child.
That though does not mean you have to hate and blame them...after all the only way you could have gotten here is from the two of them..nobody else. Take your life and and be positive. Do not use your ancestry as a reason to feel like a victim. You have as much value as anybody else and its up to you to validate your existence.
I sense you have a good head on your shoulders, so use it to your advantage. Take advantage of every ounce of schooling and focus on your lesson and good grades. Rise to the top of your environment despite your heritage.
You were put on this earth for a reason...release your hatred and give it your best shot.
2006-09-23 11:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, give your mom a break. Obviously this was a mistake, and I guarantee you since she didn't tell you that she feels very bad about what happened. She loves you though, and this you know because she kept you. She probably thought she was doing the best for you by not telling you. She didn't want you to think you were part bad. Remember, someday you will be a mom who might make mistakes, and don't you hope your kids forgive you.
I don't know what to tell you about your step dad, sometimes dads seem like jerks. I don't know why you think he is a liar, perhaps he is. You need your mom, talk to her, you might be surprised what you find out. Don't talk to her with an attitude, be kind, she's got it hard too. How would you like to be married to a jerk and a liar?
2006-09-23 17:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by toomeymimi 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
im the result of a similar situation but my mom is the druggie and my dad is my hero. they lyed to u because they thought it was the best thing for u. ur step dad was very brave to step in like that. u shouldnt hate him. ur mom and ur step dad probably thought that they were doing the best thing for u. let it sink in then talk to ur mom and ur step dad together. ask them about the situation. im sure they love u a lot. just give it some time.
2006-09-23 20:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by jordanthegrouch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip you ungrateful little brat!
So what you don't live in 90210. You should be thankful you have a mother that takes care of you and a man around the house to help look after you. He could be doing a hell of a lot of other things to you than just being a jerk.
An who are you to criticize a man who steps up and accepts a woman with another man's turd (you). Your a child act like one. Or just leave home if you are so grown and see what it is like in the real world. Where step fathers are sexually abusing little girls and mothers who are crack whores with crack babies.
I bet you don't complain about the food you eat that you don't pay for. Or how about the clothes you wear that you didn't pay for.
No, I think your a jerk. I think you should run away and let them live in peace.
2006-09-23 18:28:31 · answer #4 · answered by joe 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You just have to make the best of your life and don't resent your parents. All parents try their best to do what's right by you. Try to think how your mother and step-father must feel. Did you always know he was your step-dad? Has he always been there for you? If he has--screw the step-dad joke. He is your dad.
2006-09-23 17:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by .vato. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that your mom was just trying to protect you from the truth, but they should have told you sooner. It is like not telling a child they are adopted. Talk to your guidance counselor at school, or the minister at your church. It sounds like you may need some outside help to get through this.
2006-09-23 17:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
what did ur dad do? um good luck and make the most out of everything.
2006-09-23 18:07:22 · answer #7 · answered by sup yo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make the best of your life with what you'v got.
2006-09-23 17:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by acid tongue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
would you rather they have told you you where an accident?
that they ****** up and you where the end result???
2006-09-23 18:27:37 · answer #9 · answered by sikn_shadow_420 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry for you
2006-09-23 17:54:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋