I recently got out of the army after being overseas. My first night back with my family I was told by my 10 yr old daughter that a man has been sleeping her mama's bed. This was a few months ago. Now my little girl has complained to me about the man abusing her but nobody listens. The even went to the court with this information and the judge didn't see cause for emergency. He wouldn't even talk to my daughter. They put this man on the stand and by the results of his judgement took his word over mine. This took place in Savannah, GA and I live in Ft. Worth, TX. I've had to take all the resources I had and am now on the verge of bankruptcy to try and protect my little girl. I feel like I'm being punished because I was overseas defending my country and providing for my family. I don't know what else to do. I'm hoping someone might have some answers.
2006-09-23 10:12:15 · 8 answers · asked by Bill C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I didn't read all the crap but I'm living in a marraige where my husband has no rights with his kids from ex. She is an evil,backstabbing,2 faced,b*tch. All the courts want to do is listen to her. I think it's just easier to beleive them than to actually listen to the case. It does suck. Get a good lawyer. Hope you can afford it.
2006-09-23 10:16:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Bill C.
I hope you have someone a family member or someone who can help you. This is insane!!!!
I do not care about your ex or the new guy, I care that a 10 year old child is talking about abuse. No one can tell you what yto do. I know laws are strick.
I would be on the phone to a legal aide attorney (no charge) and also get ideas of what can be done.
We all are different. I would do anything to protect my child and face the music later. Children do not lie and make these type of things up. Her future is at stake.
Good Luck
and...Thank- You so much for your military service!!!
2006-09-23 17:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try your local legalaid assoc for help or evn nearby university with a law dept for either an atty in training or a paralegal for help. What youre hoping to do will cost you alot because of different states and youre not going to like the outcome either. Unless you can get documented proof (police reports, medical records) of any abuse by either this guy or her mother, youre pretty much sol. because what youre trying to do is convict this guy on hearsay evidence only. Please dont get me wrong, I believe your daughter like you do but the courts only go on concrete evidence which in this case probably wont be easy to get. Sorry wish I had a better answer for you but the law is what it is and sucks totally at times and is unfair at others. Good luck. By the way unless the mother has documented charges of child or drug/mental abuse charges against her, you wont gain custody that way either
2006-09-23 17:26:06 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to do, is make it public, get a story in the paper or even on the news, once heat is put on a judge or others who are in the wrong, the ball will start rolling. People like that don't want to be in the public eye, and being that you are an American soldier will even get you more attention, and people will come forward to even help you....hope I could help
2006-09-23 17:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by wendy a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need an attorney. See if the military will pay for one. You should write down ANY allegations that your daughter says and take her into the hospital right away for an examination. You need to protect yourself, too. You don't want the ex telling authorities that YOU are the one abusing her. Be as close as you can to your daughter. I mean, within walking distance.
2006-09-23 17:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by WDS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next to NONE. On the books, every right a woman has, in practice, in court, in front of that judge, you are a money making machine meant to live in abject poverty and your rights as a parent are negligible. Especially if a woman decides to make any accusations ( without proving one!0 against you about violence or drinking etc...
2006-09-23 17:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by The REVJim Jones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sympathy is my word for you.....get a lawyer,,,,this women are always protected and it's not fair for the other parent....keep trying and maybe you can also get witnesses or some kind of evidence....I wish you all the luck in the world,,,,hey! tell your daughter to call 911 whenever another event happens ,,then you can start my getting all this police reports...well, i think it's a start..
2006-09-23 17:19:50 · answer #7 · answered by guess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Child Protective services if your daughter is being abused-if she would tell a teacher, they HAVE to report it.
www.fathersrights.org has some good info for fathers.
2006-09-24 02:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋