I just do not understand how or why anyone can do this to their spouse. Our your spouse's okay with this ? Did you come to an agreement or do you just go ?
2006-09-23 10:01:26 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hey hun...i completley agree with you....i don't understand were it said in the marrige vows that you honor and cherish your spouse and the boobs or male g string dancin' across the stage!....i believe that if the two really love each other and are ment to be together then they stick together...and yes i know that the honey moon doesn't last the entire marrige and it can get stale but so what...thats when you look to each other for new things not some one or something else....not to mention one of my cousins friends when to a strip club and got a crab in her eye!....talk about a hygenic place!....love daisy
2006-09-23 13:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by crazy_daisy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been happily divorced for a long time, but have never had a partner who goes to strip clubs (that I know of). I've just read that for men, thoughts of sex is like an international airport, and for woman, it's like a small field for private planes. The male brain is wired to desire to see the naked female body. They also have the "male bonding", "showing-off in front of their friends" thing going on. No one can tell their spouse what they can or can not do. We don't own anyone. But...if it makes you unhappy, I would hope that your partner would try to understand your feelings. Explain calmly that you feel threatened when he goes to strip clubs. Try to get some honest communication between the two of you. Best of luck!
2006-09-23 10:12:18 · answer #2 · answered by almitra 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman, and this is my answer. I have been in a strip club where the stripper was a beautiful girl. and she might as well as have been polishing the furniture, for all the attention she was getting. There was about 20 men there as well and not one of them were paying any attention to her. A few minutes later the waitress came by to get more drinks, She was not particularly pretty, but she had a smile that was to die for. When she looked at you you knew there was no one else that she wanted to talk to more than you. Not only did the men look, talk, look again they were giving her big tips. because she made them feel special. I guess the moral of this story is, if you can make your partner feel like there is no one in the world better than them, it won't matter if they go to strip clubs of not.
2006-09-23 10:13:58 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I personally don't like the strip club all they want is your money. But its really not that big of a deal, Most women are very pretty to look at. Nothing happens at a strip club but the exchange of money.
Its not that they are having sex at the club. Its just entertainment.
2006-09-23 11:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by mike67333 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a "guys club", where the only women present are objects and don't nag them about the trash or talk their ears off.
Many wives are okay with this because they recognize that its really harmless in the long run.
However, if the spouse objects, the man should respect her view.
2006-09-23 10:06:14 · answer #5 · answered by messagetothefish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married, but here's my take on this.
I don't particularly like strip clubs, I think they're highly overrated, and 9 times out of 10 I would rather just go to a regular bar. But, it would bother me to know that I'm not allowed to go to one. I mean, what's the harm, really, if you're not actually cheating on your spouse? I don't believe that I would object if I were married to a girl who wanted to go to a male strip club.
2006-09-23 10:04:47 · answer #6 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I take it that you are a young lady, with age and years under your marriage, things will not look the same to you in a few more years... strip clubs are not the problem here . is it wrong to look at others? ( no ) it human nature, I felt the same way when I was married at a young age , but now I'm older and more confident in myself and my relationship with my man that I go with him to strip clubs, we have allot of fun , I love my man and I'm not bisexual either but adding a little erotic fun is harmless and exciting, but if it bothers you that much try a different approach by asking him why he likes to go , and tell him your feelings, you can't tell somebody you love what they can and can not do , that just makes them angry and forces them to do it more .
you share a life together , you don't owne him! if he likes to go to strip clubs let him and if you don't want to join him , go do something with your friends , or go to see the male strippers, but if your worried about him cheating , he doesn't have to go to a strip club to do that!!!! have trust in him .. Plus if you really want to know the truth in allot of clubs the girls don't look that good , like what you would see in movies ... for men its just the excitement of seeing something naked .
2006-09-23 10:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sheena 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What's wrong with it? U can't touch the dancers and the more your man is turned on, the more he comes home really excited for you. Couples watch porn together, try going to the strip club together.
2006-09-23 10:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by Sweetness 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It means he's still interested in women. If he quits looking, then maybe he's gay.
I love my wife, and have for the last 30 years, I've never strayed and she does swallow.
But there's something about looking at a nice young hard body...
2006-09-23 10:08:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i never been to a strip club but i would go if that what my boyfriend would want to do. i don't see nothing wrong with it. at the end of the night he going home to you anyway. but if i go to see females strip then he going with me to see men strip.
2006-09-23 11:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by olive_olive_72 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋