2006-09-23 09:55:11 · 39 answers · asked by louise_pink_chick 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
There is no normal! Every pregnancy is different! So please don't worry, there's no set time when you are suppposed to suddenly start to bond with your baby.
The fact that you're even asking this question shows that you care, so that's a very good start. Just give it time, get on as normal as much as you can, enjoy being pregnant as much as you can and the natural mothering instinct will come when it comes. I hope that puts your mind at ease, at least a bit.
2006-09-23 10:09:06 · answer #1 · answered by kpbunches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Everyone is different. I have a six year old and went through the same thing. I never wanted kids and cried the morning I was going into the hospital because I didn't want to be a mom. Then I held her in my arms and that bond was there. So yeah, don't stress. It might come later after you really start to feel the baby kick or you may not bond until you hold that newborn for the first time.
2006-09-23 10:06:34 · answer #2 · answered by ezjrny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't bond with my baby during pregnancy at all because it didn't feel real, it freaked me out that I was pregnant, i was scared to have feelings for something that was growing inside me and I was worried, worried that my life was over and I had made a huge mistake! But I hadn't, after giving birth it took about a week to feel a 'rush' of love and to bond with my baby, I thought 'Oh my god, this is my baby and I'm a mum' then it was brilliant. So don't worry it's hard to bond with someone you haven't met yet... Good luck and enjoy being pregnant.
2006-09-23 10:15:44 · answer #3 · answered by floss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God yes, I didn't feel pregnant until I had a bump, which was at about 16-17 weeks, and even though I bonded with the bump I then didn't bond with my baby until he was a few days old. Now I love him to bits.
2006-09-23 09:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by Tink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. At 16 weeks I didn't even know I was pregnant so I didn't even think about it. It's hard to know how and when you will react to the whole experience. I hated it, the movement really made me feel ill but some love it. Don't worry. As soon as you see the baby it will all fall in to place. It will take some time to come to terms with the shock of it all but suddenly, one day, you'll wonder what you were ever on about.
2006-09-23 11:03:21 · answer #5 · answered by t11omo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way... and even when my son was born, I didn't have that instant bond-connection that lots of women have. Although I loved my son sooo much, it wasn't until he was about 4 months, that I really truly bonded with him. Give it time, you're only 16 weeks pregnant. You may change your feelings once your belly grows, or you see that ultrasound picture for the first time! Congratulations. This new kind of love will change your life!
2006-09-23 10:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 18 weeks and I didn't feel much about being pregnant at all except stress until I got my first ultrasound. Something about seeing that little baby in there sort of clicked with me and now I feel much more in tune with what's going on in there. I've even started to talk to him (looks like a boy). My belly is getting hard now so that also makes it easier to feel more connected. Don't worry, I think that you will get into it more as you get further along. Congrats.
2006-09-23 16:55:23 · answer #7 · answered by redzodd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time i felt my baby move was when i felt we bonded, it just didn't seem real at first as i couldn't see hear or feel him. I'm 33 weeks pregnant and now all he does is move about it's the best feeling ever. good luck x
2006-09-23 23:35:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is completely normal.
The reality of it all hasn't set in with you yet. Some women don't start to "feel" anything until after theyve started really showing. Others don't start to bond until they first lay eyes on their newborn.
Either way, just take it easy and don't stress over it too much. You will bond with your baby when the time is natural for you.
Good luck! :)
2006-09-23 10:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by Kristen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its normal, you can't see the child yet. up until i actually felt my baby kicking i didn't feel pregnant at all, just fat, it sounds strange but its true, once you feel your babs move you are aware it's there and probably then will you start feeling the need to protect it, but nothing compares for the moment you hold your baby in your arms for the very first time, i think your going to make a fantastic mum if you are worried at this early stage. trust me bonding will come, every womans different, hormones going everywhere! just wait until you see that tiny wrinkled face looking at you.
2006-09-23 10:08:18 · answer #10 · answered by zeldieuk2002 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋