WHAT would you do if you where with a man for 6 years and you found out you where 6 weeks pregnant?

Question

he can not have babys ,and i want them . we got togather when i was 15 im now 22 and he is 43 . i am at the point i cant even stand to go home. he is very jealous, and controlling.he tells me i cant to better even if i try . accuses me of sleeping with people while i am at school(COLLEGE) i have now anly been with three people in my life . one before him , him and now 6 years later another man , and i have gotten pregnant ( ITS TRUE< it only takes one time) He is mental abusive and treats me as if i am a child . WHAT WOULD YOU DO ? tell him and stay or leave and dont say a thing .

so their is no question about it yes i am going to keep my baby !!!!!

Answer 1

He's going to notice that you're pregnant before too long.
A couple of things to consider.
1. What makes him say he can't have children. Because he's had unprotected sex and never gotten enyone pregnant? Because of an "injury" when he was a child and he was told he could never father a child? Because he had a vasectomy in the past? - Of all of those, the only one that I would consider convincing was if he's had a vasectomy.
2. You've been with him for 6 years and he's mentally abusive and treats you like a child - hun, why do you stay with him? You got together when you were 15 and he was 37 - do you realize that qualifies him as a pedophile??? Honestly what does a 37 year old man have in common with a 15 year old girl? He was looking for someone to control.
You're older now. In college, away from him? This would be the time to make the break with him. ANY abuse is abuse and you shouldn't subject yourself to it. Cut the strings now. Get out of that situation before it becomes physically abusive!
But, at the same time, don't rush into a relationship with the assumed father of your baby. Take a step back and take a long, hard look at the situation. You don't want to go from one bad situation into another. Being single and pregnant isn't such a bad thing these days, and there is lots of help available.
Consider your options - think long and hard about what's best for you and your baby. Single parenting isn't easy, but it's better than parentiing with the wrong guy.
Take care, hun - and good luck.

Answer 2

Have you read your own question? What would you tell me if I asked you the same thing? I mean we all have weird hang ups, but how many people out there are really going to say, "Hey your very jealous, possessive, controlling, and mentally abusive boyfriend is such a catch!" But to be fair to this guy, you apparently have been sleeping with other people at school or you wouldn't be pregnant. Also if you are screwing around behind his back, you are acting like a child by lying and hiding and not taking responsibility for your own actions.

Anyway, sounds like you already know what you want, and you just want everyone else to support you in it. Afterall, someone who is happy where they are doesn't try to find someone else, even for a night. Regardless, you are now in a situation of it being him or the baby. But, hey...my vote is that you leave him.

Answer 3

Please leave him. If he treats you like that, then it can only get worse. If he is already a jealous man, he might very well become violent if he knows you were with someone else. If you can't stand to go home, you do not need to be with him. I don't know if the father of your child will help, but I would try. If not, then contact someone who might, a friend or family member. Maybe even make arrangements to stay on campus if you have to. There are also shelters for abused woman...and even if he is not physically abusive, do not say you are not abused, he is being emotionally abusive, that can be worse sometimes. There are many avenues for you, just please get out. For your sake, and the baby's sake. I would hate to think of what a man like that might do if he found out you were pregnant by another man. I will be praying for you.

Answer 4

As others have stated, something will not be proper right here. Without a doubt, a number of matters are usually not correct. For starters, how are you going to 'be' with anybody for 6 years, and surely be aware of so little about him? Except, of course, for almost all of these 6 years he was once still married. Even then, you should have discovered a couple of matters, as a minimum. Subsequent, how are you going to love someone you know so little about? That appears like you are in love with an notion, a facade, not the true person. There is no state on this Union that may force any person to pay 3/4 of each paycheck for life to an ex-spouse. It simply is not viable, whatever the situations. My feeling is that he is paying alimony, and as a rule life coverage to his ex. And he may just need to pay that for lifestyles, relying on the situations of the marriage and the divorce. It's in all probability that percent is 25% of his pay. It sounds like he is making an attempt to let you know he has no cash, and never will, so you will shoulder the accountability for most of the expenditures, and he's going to be in a position to hide most of his pay. Not exactly a excellent start to a relationship, with one character hiding, deceiving and lying. I comprehend how for your forty's, that you may feel like time has handed you via, and you would not have many extra possibilities in lifestyles. But that shouldn't be practical. Find out why you're willing to settle, then work on your self, and then and most effective then will you be competent to attract and be with the correct man or woman for you. Excellent luck.

Answer 5

LEAVE HIS A&$$ HE AINT NOTHING BUT INSECURE
BUT YOU!
DONT BE STUPID
THAT MENTAL AND VERBAL ABUSE CAN AND WILL LEAD TO PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL YOU ARE PREGNANT YOU ARE YOUNG AND I AM SURE YOU LOVE YOURSELF
BUT LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO RESPECT YOURSELF AT ALL TIMES THE THING IS WHEN SOMEONE IS CONSTANTLY SPEAKING NEGATIVE THINGS TO YOU THE ONE THAT SUPPOSED TO LOVE U THATS HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT THEMSELVES
AND THEY'RE ARE TO STUBBORN TO SAY IT ANS ACCEPT IT
SO THEY ATTEMPT AND TRY THEIR BEST TO MAKE YOU MISARABLE AS WELL
DONT SETTLE FOR HIM
6 YEARS IS A LONG TIME
BUT YOUR LIFE IS MORE LEAVE IF U HAVE SOME WHERE TO GO OR IF NOT AND NO JOB GET ONE ASAP
SAVE MONEY GET A VEHICLE AND MOVE WHEN SOMEONE TRIES TO CONTROL YOUR LIFE THEY CAN BECOME VISCIOUS WHEN U REFUSE TO.
IS 6 YEARS WORTH YOUR LIFE OR HAPPINESS
IS 6 YEARS WORTH RAISING YOUR CHILD AROUND SOME UNHAPPY,INSECURE,NERVE WRECKING DUDE NO

GET RID OF EM
GET YOUR LIFE TOGETHER BECAUSE U HAVE A BABY TO TAKE CARE AND WORRYING ABOUT IN WHAT HE'S GONNA SAY AINT GONE MAKE YOUR LIFE ANY EASIER THAN U BEING IN YOUR N PLACE PEACEFULLY

HE TREATS U LIKE A CHILD BECAUSE NEXT TO HIM U ARE.
LEAVE WHILE U CAN.
DONT WAIT ON NO FLOWERS

AND WHAT I MEAN BY THAT IS DONT CONSIDER LAYING IN CASKET WITH FLOWERS ON TOP UNFORUTATE

GODS SHOWING U THESE THINGS NOW SO THAT U CAN LEAVE

SO DO IT
GO
IF NOT FOR U
FIND STRENGTH TO DO IT FOR THAT BABY THAT NEEDS YOU

BECAUSE I GUARRENTEE THAT IF HE CANT BEAT AND HURT U NO MORE HE'LL TRY THE THING CLOSEST
AND DO NOT HAVE AN ABORTION YOU'LL BE FINE
YOUR DESERVE THE OPPORTUNITY TO TAKE THE BREATH OF LIFE U HAD IT WHY ROB IT OF HIS/HER
YOU FIND STRENGTH WHEN U STAND UP AND WALK
YOU GROW WEAKER WHEN U SIT AND WAIT
JUST GO PLEASE
GOOD LUCK
READ THIS AS MANY TIME U NEED TO FIND THE COURAGE
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Answer 6

Leave him. Why do you want to put yourself through that mental anguish? When you're pregnant your emotions are a lot worse than normal and if what he says upset you before you were pregnant, what do you think it's going to do now? Plus people like him have the tendency to be only a step away from physical abuse. Do you want your child to grow up in that environment? I don't think so.

I'd just leave. He doesn't need to know that you're pregnant. It's not his baby, so therefore it's none of his business. Besides, he sounds like some sort of pedophile if he's willing to date a 15 year old kid at the age of 36. Personally I wouldn't want my children around someone like him. Yuck.

If you live with him, have someone else go with you to help get your things. Preferably your dad, or a brother, someone who he isn't likely to bully around. The only thing I hate more than abusive assholes and dead beat dads are pedophiles. For yours and your baby's sake, get away from him. Good luck honey.

Answer 7

first off, you should not have been with him when you were 15 but that is the past, and now you are 22 and in school, and pregnant this is your chance to walk away. Where are your parents do you have anywhere to go? You need to get out! Now you have a child to think about. I am sure you don't want this man in the life of your child? Good Luck

Answer 8

Get help from friends or family find a hot line dont do it alone, But there is always a way out ,LEAVE!!!!!!!! you already cheeted you are at risk of a violent situation and you need to keep your baby safe!!!!! I was in your shoes if you ever get scared call the police when he loses controll on the situation he might freak but he will get the point. then stay single for a while tell you get you self back. find out who you are and then you can find out what you realy want in a partner for life. but right now the stress of your relationship will make any problems due to your body change worse and that will be bad for you and the baby GET OUT!

Answer 9

I would have my baby and let The Lord take care of the rest. You would not be the only nor will be the only woman being a single mom if the father does not wish to stand up and be there. Wish you a very happy Pregnancy and much health to your new love of your life.

Answer 10

Leave him and don't say a word. You don't want to bring a child into the world with a man who won't love this child because you cheated. You are still young, you can find someone else who will treat you good and your baby like his own, I did.