What should I do?

Question

Alright, well I LOVE ballet but I love my best friend as well, and now that I am more serious about ballet (higher raking) I have less time to spend with her and I can see that it hurts her, it hurts me as well, I am so sonfused as what to do... any advice, I have been dancing since I was 7 and I am 17, I just cant choose...

Answer 1

You don't need to choose. If you friendship is real, you wont need to see her for years and you will still be able to call her in a time of need and KNOW that she will be there for you and vice-verca. Does she understand your love of dancing? Just how well does she know about you? Your time as a dancer is limited. Your body will not be able to keep it up at the level it can now forever. Your friends will have to understand that and give you the freeedom to follow your dreams as far as you can. If she doesn't understand that, perhaps you are either not expressing yourself engouh, or she is not a true friend, just a needer (by which I mean, someone who needs to live their life through someone else) If she is the latter, the best thing you could do is to let her go and find something that fulfills her needs the way dancing does yours. Only then will she understand true friendship...........

Answer 2

It is Hard to divided time between dancing and friends. But you don't have to choose. Explain to her why you are so busy. Also invite her to come and watch you practice so she can see what you do and how good you are. Friends are an important part of every ones life, but so are hobbies. When your not dancing or at practice..invite her over for dinner or to the movies..you know just to go have fun. If you guys are true friends she will understand and will be very supportive..but you have to talk to her and if you can include her as well.

Answer 3

Well u have to think which is more important your friend or ballet. Ballet could be ur career when u r dicovered. And ur friend is the only thing in the world that is there for u when u were sad, mad,and has been with u through the bad times and the good times. Trust me I would pick my friend because she is the only thing u have for advice and support. Good Luck, Ash

Answer 4

I SOOO agree with Dancing Surgeon. Friends will come and go. If she can't understand that you need to spend more time on the passion of your life which is dancing, it is just too bad. But it doesn't mean you will lose her as a friend, not necessarily. I have friends that I went high school with, but now I don't get to see for months and months, and every time i see them they go like, where did you disappear!? I've been calling you and e-mailing you and so on. But we are still great friends, and I think they are my best friends still.

Life will go on. One of you will get married sooner than the other, then she will have to spend more time with her husband. You can't be same close with your good friends at all times.

Keep dancing, and I hope you will be able to stray friends with your friend, hopefully, she'll understand that dancing is your life.

Answer 5

I am sorry if I come out blunt, but forget your friend. If anything she should know how important this means to you and she should support you. Friends will come and go, but dance stays forever. I have been dancing for YEARS and lost friends in the process. Yea, its hard, its sad, but in the end, you still have family and tons of new friends, and a great dance. Good luck in making your decision.

Answer 6

girl keep dancing. i know you probably love your friend but this sounds like something you are very serious about. it sounds like you need to plan ahead a pick set days for you and your friend to hang out. but dont think that you have to give up one or the other. you can do both. many people have.