Okay, my friend Jaz and myself have been friends since 1st grade. She's having her sweet 16 birthday tomorrow, and I was convinced she was one of my best friends, but she didn't invite me. She invited possibly everyone else, even ppl who she isn't really friends with. Her boyfriend Evan and myself do not get along at all (being that he was telling lies about me and doing stuff to Jaz that totally disrespects woman). He's going to the party. Supposidly her mom (who says i'm like one of her own) said that she didn't want me to go b/c she said there would be fighting between us. However, I've been nice to Evan all year and Jaz doesn't seem to see that. Also, on Jaz's myspace, Evan wrote that he's glad she didn't invite anyone who wouldn't get along with anyone else and then goes *hint hint* and called that person a *****, which he was referring to me in both. I'm not angry at Jaz, I'm more hurt than anything. But she's going around telling everyone. Should I talk to her? what should I say
2006-09-23 09:39:17 · 11 answers · asked by Erica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think she's said all she wanted to say buy not inviting you and by acting terrible towards you. If you think it will make you feel better, then yes, you should talk to her. Let her know you thought you were friends, but that you see you clearly are not. Part on good terms, wish her well, and get some real friends.
I had friends that I had known since kindergarten and when we got to high school it all changed. I thought we were best friends, but when something similar to your situation happened I realized I was just being used - so I moved on and got real friends.
2006-09-23 09:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. Your friend has obviously chosen her boyfriend over you. Look the only thing you can do is be there for her when it doesn't work out with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend is jealous of you. Don't bother talking to her. She has said enough by not inviting you to her party. Talking to her at this point won't do any good. The damage has already been done. You should have a party and not invite her.
2006-09-23 09:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by LISA F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, honey, but that is NOT a good friend. I would talk to her, but not in intentions to become friends again. Just to clarify things here, and to be the bigger person and not have a stupid teenage b*tch fight. Say something like, "I'm really hurt that you would choose your boyfriend over me. I thought we were really good friends, but apparently you dont feel the same. I guess it just hurts that you would give up all that we shared for a boy." A girl who would choose a boy over her BEST FRIEND is no friend. I know it might hurt, but you deserve someone who will appreciate you for who you are, and for the fact that even though you might not get along with her boyfriend, you put up with him because you love your friend. I'd suggest finding someone worth your time. Go out with a few of your other good friends and have a good time on the night of her party.
2006-09-23 09:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is blind at times. Talk to her. Point out what a bad person he is. She's not being a very good friend right now, but you can be. Tell her how you feel. Ask her why she is letting a guy come between you two. If she does not respond positively, she is not a good friend. Unfortunately in the future she will find what kind of person he really is and what a good friend you were. She'll come around eventually. When can not be said.
2006-09-23 09:44:23 · answer #4 · answered by summer love 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should tell her that you thought you were better friends than that and that you feel like you should have been invited to her party and that even tho you and her man have had differences in the past you know you can him can put the probs in the past for her party and that you just want to be there to celebrate her party with her as her friend and you dont really care about anyone else thats going to be there... basically, tell her how you feel and see what her response is
2006-09-23 09:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an old friend whom I've known since 1st Grade...We've had our separations, too...True friendships will last a lifetime...no matter where you may go...You and Jaz are "friends"...but, are you "Forever Friends"...? Call her...tell her what's on "your heart"...Maybe this decision was harder for her than it is for you...? As for her boyfriend...I know it's hard to be nice to a guy who disrespects your friend...BUT, he is her boyfriend...AND there isn't much you can do about that...It's her decision who she dates...Best to you...Hope things work out!
2006-09-23 09:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by CAKES 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a friendship isn't elementary, as you will see, and you may paintings at it especially situations to make it better. attempt to entice close out with them extra and don't sell off them with the aid of fact once you're in severe college, acquaintances are the only element that keeps you going.
2016-10-17 12:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by mcsweeney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should just be patient with your friend. tell her that you feel hurt but that you respect her decision and hope that it wont affect your friendship. i mean it is her party so there really isn't anything u can do except hurt the friendship more by fighting about it. i think if u just wait it out, this thing with her boyfriend will be over soon cause it sounds like hes just a butt. when he cant cause anymore problems with u , then just wait and let her see for herself. you will have your friend back soon but you just let her know you will care about her no matter what. that's what friends do.
2006-09-23 09:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so wack. why are you so sad. just get over it. your "friend" is not really your friend, because if she was really your friend she would of envited you to her "party" she'll soon realized that her boyfriend wasn't worth it. The only thing that i have to say is that is that she hasn't realized that she had a good friend. she is not worth being friends with. both of them are so GAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-23 09:55:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mary L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask jaz why she didnt invite you and if things heat up stay calm and kill her with kindess
2006-09-23 09:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by gdluver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋