I am a female i want to know how i terminate my parental rights to a child of mine.?

Question

my parents have him they have did nothing but lie to him they harrassed me before he was born it was a living hell with these people she messed her son up he's nothing and thats what shes doing to mine he drinks smokes does drugs and hes 15 yrs old they only want him for the welfare check now they are trying to say hes crazy to get him on disability , im disabled and i cant pay support anymore and she lies to the courts giving false names besides his real daddys name so he cant get him so they are only coming after me . i dont ever as long as i live want anything to do with her and dealing with my son i have to deal with the lies she's told him , so i dont want to deal with any of it . shes mean rude nasty hatefull cruel mental and i could go on but im sure u get the picture.

Answer 1

Try to get in touch with two, perhaps three local community resources:
1) Legal Aid
2) A social worker case manager...for you or even for your son. They might be able to advocate for you on behalf of your son. Even if just to get a court order that the grandparents may not speak disparengingly about you.
3) Your or his local health care "chemical dependancey" case manager. To get him into a good program and to advise how the two of you can have your own relationship without the grandparents interference.

Family "tri-angles" are common and usually involve dumping all the family anger on the weakest individual or they have the most emotional distance from. Try to step out of all of the tri-angles in your life and insist on having relationships directly with each person "one on one" with nobody else involved. This means declining to participate in ANY gossip about another family member or friend. A good book that has a very helpful chapter about getting out of messy tri-angles is "The Dance of Anger".

This way you can have your own private relationship with your child...with nobody else in the middle. Sure, they may badmouth you...but ask your son to try to get to know you without them in the middle and to reserve judgement and to judge for himself without regard to their comments or unfair criticisms. Good luck.

Answer 2

For 1, Don't take this out on your son. Because that is exactly what you are doing. How do you know you won't be able to make a difference for him after. why not take him back. Think maybe the lies he has been told, you can fix it. Please what ever you do do not give up your parental rights. I may not have the experience, but you will for sure regret that in the future and you may not be able to turn it around. Now, why in the world would you want to leave him in that state in a home like that. Why would you not want to take him away from it. I think you need to see someone who knows about this stuff and see if they can guide you in the right direction before you make any irrational moves you will regret.
There has to be a social worker or someone in a Children's Aid department that has known or had to deal with an experience about this before. Please look for advise first. And if you feel that the father might be the best way to go, you CAN give the proper information to the lawyers. There has to be a way out there to fix this other than giving up your rights. Just look further into it. Good Luck.

Answer 3

I would see a socilitor or or local advise centre to see what you can do about this.

Answer 4

wonderful,, grandmother and mom gone bad.. re-read what you wrote ! your mom is a bad influence and you don't want the child.. adopted him out.. its the best thing you can do 4 your child..

Answer 5

You are taking this all out on your son. shame on you. disowning him shame on you. hes been brain washed and you wont help him. shame on you. when ugliness is passed out . ugliness will come back .

Answer 6

I cannot give you advice , because you are not making any sense.