And I'm not. What should I do? What if I actually marry a black guy?!
2006-09-23 09:20:33 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I was in the store, and I was like, Mom!! I found someone to take me to prom. And I said this black guy's name, and she looked at me and said, NO! He's black.
2006-09-23 09:26:04 · update #1
same pb here, my mom told me that she will forget me forever if i even bring a non-white friend at home!!! but you know what? i will. it's my friend, not hers, right? my life, my choices.
2006-09-23 09:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Without knowing your parents it's hard to say.Maybe they are maybe they're not but follow your heart and you have to live your life the way you want to.If you want to be friends with,date or marry someone that is not white then it's YOUR LIFE.
With that said let me say this (Ramon O) just because someone is from or lives in the south does not make them a racist...and assumptions like that are a little racist don't you think?
2006-09-23 09:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by jess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow... that's your mom's problem. You take who ever you feel like going with. She has her own issues with black people, it isn't your fault. I'm black and I don't care what color a person's skin is, because I have no idea how that matters so much to people. All skin color determines is who can be in the sun longer, thats it, and science proves that. I think that your mom is just stereotyping, maybe because she's gone through something bad with another race, but as long as your prom date is someone you feel is worth going with, that's what'll make you happy, so do it. Stand up for yourself, and don't let her make up your mind, or brainwash you. Be with whom ever makes you happy...
If your mom doesn't understand her, sorry, but that's something she has to get over herself. Enjoy yourself, and go with him no matter what, to prove to yourself that you were able to dismiss all of that racist stuff, and that's a personal gain for you, and it'll make you proud in the end... Enjoy your prom girl!!!
2006-09-23 09:34:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am Black too and I believe just because you would rather your child not date someone of another race, does not necessarily make you a racist. I love people of all races but I asked my sons to never, ever date or marry White women.
It is just what I prefer they not do. I know lots of Black men who are with White women simply because their skin is white. That is just the wrong reason to marry or date. Ask your mom what her reason is. We all know that our kids are going to do what they want in the end anyhow.
2006-09-23 09:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jacks036 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was shocked when I figured out in my 20's that Dad actually hated black people. If someone is racist you cannot do much to change that, it is deeply embedded. I guess you will have to see if their love for you transcends you marrying a black guy. I bet it will, despite all the fussing. that may occur.
2006-09-23 09:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by ^ _ ^ 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You have to decide if you want a life with that sort of controversy in it. If he's worth not ever seeing your parents again, then go for it. If not, then dump him. You need to decide how you want to live.
Actually it sounds like you just might marry a black man just to piss them off. Not a good idea.
2006-09-23 09:28:30 · answer #6 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's just because that's how the world was in that generation. Haven't you ever seen shows like Little House on the Prairie? Anyway, if you do, you would probably be best off eloping or something.
2006-09-23 09:22:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's Normal to marry a black guy, and I against racism of all directions!
2006-09-23 11:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anry 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you do marry someone out of your race and your parents are racist then I suggest that you never take them home for the holidays.......But on a serious note as long as you are your own person then don't trip on them and how they act because you know what? you are the person who is married to that person not your parents and if that is what you want to do with your life do not let anyone make decisions for you, follow your own mind and heart, Our parents don't make us who we are, they have only given us life, that do not give them the right to live our lives for us.... Just my opinion.......Good Luck I mean it.....( =
2006-09-23 09:25:51 · answer #9 · answered by Lil Angel 68 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Many of our parents are. Do what you feel is right, not what others feel is right for you, including your parents. You gotta try and respect your parents for their good views that you agree with. However if you feel differently about something after clearly thinking it through, you gotta follow your own heart.
2006-09-23 09:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by Rock N' Roll Junkie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live according to your own values. You know racism is wrong and I commend you for not being influenced by your parents racism. If you want to marry a black guy they will have to accept your decision and they should love you regardless.
2006-09-23 09:23:16 · answer #11 · answered by Nico 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋