Okay I met this guy at the beginning of this month and we hung out alot. But he started falling for me and yes he treats me really nice...well he has asked me to marry him I told him I would only if we can make that happen in 08'. But now all my friends and family besides my parents have a problem with this...Please what should I do.
2006-09-23 09:11:05 · 17 answers · asked by mscaramel318 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
follow your heart on this
2006-09-23 09:12:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In reality you must follow both heart and mind. The heart is great, but sometimes it sees only what it wants to see.
Have you asked your family and friends why they have a problem with this? Are you too young? Is there some other problem they think you will run into?
Your heart feels love, and that is wonderful. You will see everything good in him. Unfortunately, your heart will not see any warning signs of bad things in him.
How about going for a 75% heart and 25% mind judgment? Listen to the little nagging doubts that your mind is trying to point out.
2006-09-23 09:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down with your family and friends and ask them why they don't like him. Sometimes love really is blind and you may not see some of his bad traits because you are infatuated with him right now. They love you and are looking out for you.
Knowing a person for less than a month and he already wants to marry you??? That is very fast. Telling him you must wait until 2008 was a good move on your part.
If after talking calmly with your family and friends and considering what they have to say you still feel that you can spend the rest of your life with this man, take it slow and pursue the relationship. But, remember that your family and friends know you and care about you. Listen to them and then make your own decision.
2006-09-23 09:17:38 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you and your guy feel comfortable with. Others will get use to the fact that time goes by quickly and 2008 will be here in no time. If you change your mind in 2007 then do it then. Marriage is forever.... or should be. I have been married for 36 years to the same guy. We did it in 6 months from the time we meet and people told us it was too soon and wouldn't last. So you have to do what you feel is right. Good Luck.
2006-09-23 09:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by flashy lady in red hat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
30 or so days and he wants to marry, find someone in more touch with reality and self worth, setting a year to get married is just as wrong on your part, if you both have feelings for each other then how about starting with plain old simple committed dating, if your family & friends are both against it, then listen to them if not who do you listen to, Star magazine? Divorce will be right around the corner , is it worth losing a part of your life and a friend over?
2006-09-23 09:20:24 · answer #5 · answered by mohvictor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart, don't worry about what other people want or think , if you need to wait until 08, that's what you need to do.. Besides planning a wedding takes a long time.
2006-09-23 09:17:54 · answer #6 · answered by colleen954 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you could use the time to make sure you're really into this for real. I think you should take your time. Get engaged if you want to, but spend more time with this guy (more than a month, certainly). Really get to know him. Try moving in together after some time. Don't push anything. You might make decisions you'll regret that way.
Ellie
2006-09-23 09:23:58 · answer #7 · answered by Ellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too soon! you have just committed yourself to spending time with only this man. What happens when, a few months down the road you meet another guy who you just might love? Or what happens ifhe suddenly starts getting possessive, and thinks he should decide who you can talk to. Hesounds too clingy and controling. tell him you've changed your mind, and just see how very upset he gets, possibly to the point of threatening violence. Normal people don't propose marriage in just a few weeks. He doesn't love you. he wasnt st own you.
2006-09-23 09:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you only met him this month. i think you should get to know each other more b4 u start anything. he might seem like a gr8 guy at first but all of them alwayz do. maybe ur family and friends see something about him that u dont becuz u are blinded by his sweetness.
2006-09-23 09:16:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you get married in 08, you may be free to try again in 09
2006-09-23 09:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do you love him? Because love is all you need. Its all right to wait; love takes time. If you are worried about moving too quickly, then tell him that you love him, but you're just not ready for marriage. If he trully loves you then he will wait. For love surpasses all things.
2006-09-23 09:17:00 · answer #11 · answered by Spread The Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋