Why Do couples Always Argue about money.?

Question

I don’t understand why all of my significant others including my present one always ***** about money.

I mean really, even when I was the only wage earner I was still bitched at.

This relationship I am in now is the only one where I haven’t been the only wage earner.

I do not “ask” for everything and I do not want much, rent a few movies once a month or so, maybe take me out to dinner now and again, just general spending time with me.

That must be way too much for all of them.

The current one is ending up so much like the first that it is getting hard to distinguish the difference between the two, except that now it’s with a female and before it was a male.

A lazy male , sleeping all the time, computer junkie, who didn’t care if we were together or not cause we lived together what more time can you spend with someone. “We are together all the time, what do you mean you want time, how much more can you want?”

He used to say that, and now she does…

Is it me? Am I the one that is doing something that they don’t like, to the point they do not even want to be seen with me in public, or what?

She says I am reading too much into it and granted I probably am to a degree, but really what else am I to think about the whole situation?

She doesn’t like what I like, the music, the movies, the games, nothing… Why does she like me if we have nothing in common at all? Yea, I know differences attract but there has to be something there that the couple can do together even if it’s just playing a game of cards sometimes, but she doesn’t even like that either.

I have never loved someone as much as I love her, Never…

I love her children completely as if they were my own.

But saying that, the ole additive comes into play… “Is Love always enough?”

I say it could be, if she could just stop fussing at me about stuff that just doesn’t fit all the time.

I could understand if we were destitute and had nothing and I wanted something, but it has never been that way I am not stupid, but she thinks so. That is not a guess I assure you.

Maybe if she spent a few hours with me every evening, I don’t know …

But I did try that with the “Male” and it didn’t work.

I don’t know… I just don’t know what to do anymore.

Maybe just do nothing, yet everything, never ask for a thing, never complain that’s there’s no communication, Nothing.

Why?

Answer 1

It sounds to me that you are just too easy going and nothing bothers you. This makes you a truly real unique individual. And the majority of people will resent you for that very reason. People dont argue for a single cause like money itself but the stress of everyday living, and arguing is an outlet. So we take out our stress on the closest person and that usually ends up being our partner, mate, or spouse. Bills themselves and due dates, loss of income, not enough money to meet the bills, etc are the cause for stress coupled with other everyday stressful things and you have a very explosive situation and couples argue, fight or whatever you call it. Then comes along a person that nothing bothers and we automatically hate them solely because we cant be like them so we get mad at them and unload our stress on them for no apparent reason other than theyre different. Theres absolutely nothing with being a person like you just as long as you understand you are rare and unique. Youre one in a trillion.

Answer 2

Money


Have you ever really stopped and to think,
how money, can affect so many lives.

It can change a sad smile with braces,
or give a shot, to a child with hives.

What is it, about this green piece of paper?
that make people change, everyday.

How could it get so powerful?
but let people die in everyway.

Why does it destroy so many lives?
and ruin thousands of families.

When, we are the ones that make it,
how do we justify, all the agony?

They say, money is the root of all evil,
and I find this sad but true.

So why do we hurt the ones we love,
When it comes to money, and you.

But would you give all that you have,
to a hungry child or a friend.

Because it’s all up to me and you,
and we have to answer for it, in the end.

By: Kenny P aka-Cobra

Answer 3

What the....I'm not sure I understand what's happening here. Are you with a woman now? You were with a man before? It sounds like you're confused in other ways as well. You might want to take some time out and be alone to figure it all out.

Answer 4

You and your guy have a lot of problems. Both of you don't seem to get along. You have different views. Don't forget withoug money you do not survive any where in this country. Try getting broke for a week with no money and see what it feels like.

How do you expect to carry on with your lives ?. Without Money ?

Answer 5

My husband and I always argue about money because our priorities are different. We are still learning how to come together and work together using our money. Good luck...it isn't going to get any better looking for another person. If the relationship is worth it talk, talk and more talk.

Answer 6

because they grew up in a money tight situation. my husbands parents were never cheap with their kids. he grew up not caring about money. now being married to me, he lets me spend as much as i want. and he is always giving donations EVERY chance he gets.
WE have lived together for over a year and we have not had a single argument about money. i keep track of all the family bills and paychecks and give him updates now and then. i always tell him what i buy and what i spend. he has never made me feel like i cant buy what i want. it was not like this in the family i grew up in. my parents were always concerned about money and as a kid i had to make my own money to buy clothes and even food sometimes.

Answer 7

Arguments usually form around the lack of money. Or, unwise expenditure of that money.

Answer 8

Just because you always seem to fall into a dipute about money with your SOs, doesn't mean that ALL couples ALWAYS argue about money.

Answer 9

Because there is never enough to go around..no matter how much or little one earns!

Answer 10

Sounds like shes too comfortable with you.