who's gonna be deported next Thursday...she asked me to get a lawyer for him, but I said no, she said she's gonna kill herself and the baby if he's deported and that I'm a sucking friend...what to do? pls, refer to my previous questions about my ex straight drug addict illegal sick russian boyfriend for the whole story...It seems I just can't get outta it!
2006-09-23 08:51:36 · 9 answers · asked by Fabulous, young and broke! 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
To Hara: YES IT IS!
2006-09-23 08:58:38 · update #1
THAT JUST CANT BE TRUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
sorry for not believing you...
as for the situation i cant advise you...
my most difficult problems are a hundred times less hard than yours!
but i can help you with the being broke thing:make your story a scenario for a movie.or a book get some money and leave everything behind.
now seriously, use your humour,your optimism,your caracter to get out of this sick situation.
sometimes our friends demand from us outrageous things to do.
if you think they are worth it help them.otherwise make some new friends.
good luck!
hope that everything works out for you!
2006-09-23 08:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by hara 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Just what you need....a sick, drug-addicted illegal Russian lover who is probably using you for support. Yep, just what everybody needs in their life.
I think I would take the money he is asking for (be prepared to spend about 15,000.00 on the process to watch him be deported anyway..he is NOT going to stay here, no matter what you spend) and take a nice vacation about the time he is to go before the judge. When you get back, he will be gone, if your gf is going to kill herself (VERY doubtful), she will have done it before you get back...sounds like a good thing to me.
If any of this is true, you perhaps could step back, take a serious look, and figure out why you are surrounded by losers????? Good luck and peace.
2006-09-23 16:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats wrong with being russian? shouldnt he be given a 2nd chance-maybe he needs HELP to get off drugs? so what that he's illegal? who knows what he ran away from! he came 2 ur country hoping for better life! and why is he sick, u dont explain this? and is this unborn child's fault that it's concieved? so because of your own egoism and pride u will put in danger his/hers life?
my friend was a drug addict that had no true friends, plus both of her parents have passed away..she was totally lost, and everybody expected as the most common thing to have an abortion when she got pregnant with this guy..but she had a beutiful girl and totally put herself together. today she lives with the father of the baby, she is clean, beutiful and happy, and this kid will be happy to have a mum like that.
everyone needs a 2nd shot, so whatever happened to YOU, that's not the point right now.
good luck.
2006-09-23 17:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can get out of it, you just enjoy the drama too much. Sorry, but it's true. Here you have a woman in an impossible position expecting you to spend your money to save her from a situation she caused; and then blaming you because you won't help AND threatening suicide.
First, I can't think of any definition of 'friend' that would cover her actions - she isn't your friend, she's just using you because you make yourself available.
Next, since she is threatening the life of an unborn child, I would contact child protective services in your area, and tell them what she said. They'll have her committed until the child is born, and then take it into care, where it's MUCH more likely to get a decent life than this unstable woman will give it.
Lastly, just STAY AWAY FROM HER. She is self destructive, and will hurt you too. Forget about her - she's a loser, and you deserve better in your life.
2006-09-23 16:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, how come you ever dated a straight drug addict sick illegal russian guy?! YOU deserve some slaps on your faces, dude! that's what you deserve, you ****. Now things are getting tough and you dunno what to do! Move on! Change the planet where you live if possible! YOU are the one who now should step back and take a closer look in your life! WHAT THE HELL HAVE YOU BEEN DOIND WITH IT! *SLAP* *SLAP* If I were closer to you, I'd mee you and give you a good beating to know what life is all about! YOu ****! Go to India, go anywhere, live your life and be happy, draw yourself away from these losers and loosers no! And if you don't do what I', telling you! I'm gonna burn your ****!
2006-09-23 16:29:01 · answer #5 · answered by Olga's college-educated bf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the lawyer and hope she comes around later.
Tammi Dee
2006-09-23 19:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by tammidee10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as she tries to put all the reponsibility on you ...it is not yours.....she sincerely needs to grow up and face life herself...I can't imaging if her boyfriend stayed..what a lovely family that child would have to grow up in......My advice to you is to let her do whatever she chooses..but to leave you out of any responsiblity.
2006-09-23 17:54:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus loves you.
2006-09-23 16:45:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
and this is your problem because.......?
2006-09-24 01:44:36 · answer #9 · answered by jloertscher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋