Will someone please tell me what it means when your wife of three years trys to contact her ex boyfriend on myspace?
2006-09-23 08:23:13 · 30 answers · asked by ossifer8301 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry it doesn't look good you need to ask her
2006-09-23 08:25:26 · answer #1 · answered by fxdlharley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't have to mean anything. Did she tell you that she did it?? I mean would she feel comfortable talking to you about him??? I knwo that you wouldn't feel comfortable about hearing it, but thats not the point. I'm so happily married, I get aggravated as hell sometimes, but I still talk to my ex's from time to time. They are ex's there is usually a good reason for that. Your wife decided to marry you instead of him. Thats got to mean something. Sometimes just contacting her ex means nothing. It could mean something but without more information its hard to tell. But honestly if she told you or didn't hide that she did it, then I wouldn't see a problem. If she's totally hiding or denying that she did it, then she has something to hide. May just be thinking about him or wondering how he's doing and feeling guilty, but odds are if she wanted to contact her ex, she would by seeing him or calling. Chances are good that she would know how to do that. I think that simply just by being on myspace might not mean anything at all. I wish you luck, and don't overthink it, b/c then you might get into a horrible fight over soemthing that could be nothing. Good luck, and tread carefully.
2006-09-23 17:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by SWEET LIL ME 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That she loves you, but the reason why she loved that ex is something that you are not fulfilling and because he was good at it she is looking for it again. It sounds bad, but it could be something as small as you not complimenting her, but he did all the time, you might shut down at the thought of being apart of a conversation with her where all he would do is listen and make her feel important. It does not have to be about sex, and again it does not mean she loves you less. You just need to find out what you are not fulfilling for her that she is seeking in him even if it is sex. Good luck.
2006-09-23 15:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to rub it in that she is now married to this gorgeous man and is a billion times happier than she ever was with his sorry ***! Really, it could be a number of reasons. How do you know about this? Did she tell you she was doing it? Seems she would have little to hide if she actually told you she was doing it. Or did you snoop behind her back? And if you snooped and have not even bought this up with her yet - then this is obviously not the first thing that has happened to make you not trust her, huh? You need to resolve your trust issues.
2006-09-23 15:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by Sandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship is doing great and you didnt see any problem! and she tried to message her ex then dont worry, It's just normal. Especially if they shared great moments together and she really care about him.
Like me i tried to message my ex and my husband knew about it, I message him because i just want to know if he is doing good. Because when we broke up I told to myself that hope we can be friends and someday that we will talk about how happy we are right now, we will talk our own family and etc.
You need to understand that before you got married she had a great and bad memories from her EX and maybe she is the type of person who cherished everything. You will know that if she still have her love letters and gifts from her EX since high school hehehhe
Talk to your wife too!!! Communication and openness is important.
2006-09-23 16:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by samantha_fiel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off grow some balls and ask her, you don't need comments from the peanut gallery on how to run your life. Maybe she just wants to check up on some sewn seeds, or she wants to show him how happy she is now without him. Either way, you married the woman, just ask her how he's doing and what not. Throw her a curve ball and play along with her game.
2006-09-23 15:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by wiggles4jdr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always found that unusual...why do people do that when they are married? Perhaps they are unhappy and they need to get with the ex to spill their sorrow? I think that is stupid, when you break up...you break up! What is the point in getting hold of an ex when you are married and spilling the beans of the problems in the marriage. I find it disrespectful and a breach of marriage privacy.
2006-09-23 15:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a while, an ex boyfreind is just like an old friend. She wont go serious on him. She just wants to talk to an old friend. People do it all the time. If it still annoys you, start looking for your old girl friends. That might stop it:)
2006-09-23 15:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by James 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably just curious but I still think it is wrong. What would it mean if you tried to contact your exgirlfriend? Try to think why you would be doing that and then wonder how your wife would feel? I bet she wouldn't like it very much.
2006-09-23 15:27:47 · answer #9 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it looks like your marriage isn't so great at this point but you might need to sit down with her and discuss this with your wife if it bothers you so bad but if they had any children together than i would be searching for him too. but if i were you then i would sit down with her and ask her why she is looking for him on the worst website in the world..She might also have some type of feelings left for him
2006-09-23 15:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she still must care for him why else would she try to contact him. You should confront her and get the real reason why shes doing it. Do it soon before your marriage is gone. Good Luck!
2006-09-23 15:35:12 · answer #11 · answered by BadAssGirlINWV 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋