I was awoken by a intruder who was standing over my bed, he left without nothing. But ever since this has happened i am scared about being in the house on my own. Since, then we have bought alarm system and other security precautions. But now that my hubbys gone out for a couple of hours, i am extremely nervous, in fact pretty shaky.
2006-09-23 08:16:57 · 28 answers · asked by lonely as a cloud 6 in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
Make yourself a nice sweet drink, put the tele on and call someone on the phone, maybe someone you have not spoken to for a while and just chat.
All of us here on Yahoo are thinking of you and sending HUGE HUGS that should help.
Take extra care,all the best.
2006-09-23 08:32:49 · answer #1 · answered by mentor 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear about your encounter, I'm not surprised you don't want to be alone. You can maybe have a radio on so you have some comforting noises in the house and leave lights on timers or something around the house so it looks like someone is moving around in the home. Hopefully that combined with the new security measures you installed should put off any other intruders. You didn't say if you installed a panic alarm, these can be linked into your alarm system and could be reassuring for you.
I would seriously suggest some form of counselling and maybe speaking to your doctor, even if he does medicate you it might help you get over he initial few weeks until he can send you to speak to someone who can help more long term.
I would phone a friend or my hubbie if I was scared and or upset and if a pets your thing then maybe a dog would be a good idea they not only raise the alarm if there is anyone around but they are good company too.
I have never been in the position where anyone invaded my home but i was lucky when a neighbour caught someone trying to get into my home whilst i was sleeping. I completely understand how you feel and hope that this helps in some way. Please try not to worry about it too much and don't feel embarrassed about your concerns.
2006-09-23 15:30:13 · answer #2 · answered by selina19762003 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This reaction is completely understandable, as your safe place, your home, your nest, was invaded by an outsider...and at night! Getting a dog is a good idea, not only for protection but for companionship. It's amazing how many armed thieves will freeze at the sight of a barking Alsatian, Rottweiler or similar! They don't even need to be "attack dogs." Dogs are great for calming fears, they are even being "prescribed" for people with panic and anxiety disorders.
In any case I suggest you talk to someone...the Samaritans, a trusted health care professional, a pastor you trust if you have one...these feelings are natural and normal but you need to ride them out so they don't end up riding you.
Think of all the years when this didn't happen...now it has, according to the law of averages you should be safe for a long time to come.
All the best, and get that dog if you can, just for the unconditional love and support!
2006-09-23 15:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by anna 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to have this problem as a child, when I was often left tending the house alone. But your situation was based on a real-life encounter with a really scary situation which most likely left you traumatized. The short answer is to see a counsellor or psychiatrist to help you face down the trauma you experienced. If necessary, a psychiatrist can prescribe antianxiety meds that will help you through your scary moments.
2006-09-23 15:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by Bruce Almighty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Turn the lights on in the house as though there is more activity than only one person in the house .. don't only have the bedroom light on .. turn on music .. then intruders know that people are home. Obviously, make sure your doors and windows are locked .. then get on the phone with some friends .. they will help you feel calm .... and on the unlikely chance that anything would hapen .. they would know if you stopped talking suddenly .. and call the police. Good Luck ! :)
2006-09-23 15:20:42 · answer #5 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just try to stay calm, you know that are now safe. You have the alarm and a robber will not take a stupid risk on an alarmed house. Call a family member or a friend to talk to and help you keep calm and focused.
2006-09-23 15:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can completely understand that. I hate to say go for medication but I do think that a doctor would prescribe xanax for you to take at bedtime--its not going to knock you out but simply take the edge off. The alarm is reassuring and trust me this medication will help you through a rough transition and only take when you aren't with someone at night.
2006-09-23 15:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by keepingthefaith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you'll be straight just before he leaves have him check every room in the house and turn on most of the lights get all of your stuff together and plan on staying in one room most of the night keep you home and cell phone close by and make sure you set the alarm, suggestion why not ask a girl friend over to watch a movie or something.
2006-09-23 15:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by MISSREBEL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you actually saw this person? Lock the doors, put on some music, turn on the lights, read a book... Fill your home wiht sounds that make you feel that you're not alone. Call a friend and chat, or call hubby to see how he's doing.
And she's right, advertising you're home alone isn't the wisest idea.
2006-09-23 15:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't blame you! Buy yourself a dog that will bark at people, even if it's a little dog, he will let you know when people are around, plus he will keep you company. Buy a shotgun too and take some classes on how to use it. The NRA can tell you where to find them.
2006-09-23 15:19:54 · answer #10 · answered by Dang Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋