look, im 13 yrs old and my problem is that i have 3 friendthat r also 13 that are always telling me that its time to lose my virginity since they already lost it, and they also say that its a emberrasing to be one at this age ! what should i don? im not prepare for this!
2006-09-23 07:55:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You just answered your own question hun....... your not prepared for it. Loosing your virginity is something very personal and no one can tell you when you should or shouldn't have sex. I was 21 when I lost mine, I wasn't personally or emotionally ready before then. Think of all the things you don't have to worry about by not having sex that your gf's do............. theres, pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, not to mention the rumor mill at school. Relax and be your own person, you'll know when your ready, don't let anyone and I mean ANYONE push you into that decision!
2006-09-23 08:02:00 · answer #1 · answered by kim h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie! Whatever you do, don't listen to your friends. It's NOT embarrassing to be a virgin at 13. That is something you should be proud of!! You need to stand up for what you believe in and what you feel is right for you! Don't allow anyone to push you around on this subject!
The next time your friends start pressuring you, tell them that you are happy the way you are and that you would prefer to wait until you have found someone special to share that very special moment with. There's nothing wrong with that.
If they keep on pressuring you, then perhaps you should reasses their friendship. Friends don't pressure each other to do anything they don't want to do. Friends respect and accept you for who you are. If these so called friends can't do that, then perhaps they really aren't your true friends to begin with.
Keep that in mind! And Good Luck!!
2006-09-23 08:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by my_lil_buttercups 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to your friends,they sound like whores.I am a virgin and I'm 16 and I'm proud of it.It is good to stay pure until you are ready and prepared.It is a huge step and nothing that you should just rush into.You should wait till your like 16 at the youngest,right now at your age you might not be as mature for sex,I'm not saying your immature but for sex I think you are.If you have it now with some guy you don't care about you will regret it,when you fall in love(in the future) you might be ready then but not yet,so I would wait.Don't let anyone pressure you into anything,because they are wrong,it's definatly not embarrassing!
2006-09-23 11:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No No No!yr virginity is something that once u lose u Never get back.most people regret it if they lose it too early.and u shouldn't do things just because other people do them.that would take away yr individuality and then u would be like every other boring teen out there.also on top of that do u really wanna get pregnant or get an STD?no method of contraception is 100% safe.never do anything u aren't ready for.if these girls are yr true friends they'll understand.take it from 13yr old to another.good luck!
2006-09-24 02:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by ♥§o contagiou§♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice, being 16 years old and still going through all that crap, is to wait until YOU feel ready.
When you are with someone you truly LOVE and TRUST and you know they return the feelings. Don't do anything while drunk or stoned...just stay to your own course until something tells you it is time.
It may be now, next week or in ten years. Virginity is very personal and you need to make the decision on your own! NO PRESSURE FROM BOYFRIENDS OR FRIENDS! Just do what you want to!
It can be hard sometimes, but trust me, in the end it's all worth it.
:)Adelaide
2006-09-23 08:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 year olds are not mentally ready for sex. Anyone who tries to pressure you into a big decision like that isn't your friend. Stand up to them. Tell them you choose to make an informed and mature decision and don't want to just throw it away like they did. Do not let them tell you that "everyone" is doing it. They aren't. I know *lots* of virgins who are in college! It doesn't hinder their social lives at all!
Take it from a teenage mother--IT IS NOT WORTH IT! Sex can change your life forever in the form of a baby or STDs or even an abusive partner that won't take no for an answer.
P.S. -- Sex sucks if the guy doesn't know what he's doing, anyway. And in my experience 99.9% of them don't even begin to get a clue until their mid to late 20's!
2006-09-23 08:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by Kristi's Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 is too young. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. Don't rush into intercourse. I suggest you wait. Your true friends will not pressure you or say it is embarrassing. If you do it for sake of losing it you run the risk of getting a loose reputation(you don't sound like that kind), plus you could get pregnant or a venereal disease or AIDS.
Don't let anyone pressure you into having sex.
2006-09-23 08:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by andrachuk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me i lost it at 15 and i was too young and regret it my husband waited until he was 21 because he didn't want to give it up to everyone(and he had plenty of opportunity) and he lost to to me that made me feel soo special and also made me wish i had waited for him i would advise you to tell them that none of the guys r good enough and that you don't want any sloppy seconds (which rules out any of there guys so u r not saying they r not good enough) or you can be brave and be like ewww no not yet i'm not in a hurry but i know how hard things like that can be to say it seems simple when your older lol but don't be embarrassed be proud one other thing you could try is just laugh and be like no eww boys r gross whenever it comes up lol that might b easier too
P.S. once you're in high skool boy don't want to go out with the easy girls they just want to bang them they want to go out with the girls that they know r not giving it out to everyone if they are decent at all they'll even wait for you there's lots of other things you should enjoy for a few yrs first lol
2006-09-23 08:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by momma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to lose your virginity only because they have lost it.You have to do it when you feel ready for it,no matter if it will be when you are 13,14,23 or 24...Your friends are your friends,they are not you.And of course,you have to love the guy you're going to have sex with.
2006-09-23 08:01:32 · answer #9 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't. When your "friends" are 14 and pregnant you can ask them how they feel about it now. Of course if they can make you do something stupid then they will not feel a stupid because they did it.
2006-09-23 08:03:17 · answer #10 · answered by Joe W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋