I have only ever had sex with one guy and want to wait till i am in a long lasting but other girls i have talked too say they are getting the experience nessary for when they meet mister right?Is it a turn off too guys if you have little experience? most of my guy friends my age like experienced girls?The only guys that ask me out are 20 to 24 in age and my parents say that is too old and experienced for me who is 18? whats the problem?
2006-09-23 07:34:28 · 26 answers · asked by Melanie o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Only good thing is they are usually over getting too drunk and seem more mature than guys my age and even do all there homwork and try to pass class with a B not a D.
2006-09-23 07:36:07 · update #1
Why do i only attrack older guys and not the ones my age?
2006-09-23 07:36:42 · update #2
I am in college and feel out of place because of this?Its not that i dont want too have sex i just want a real relationship with the person!
2006-09-23 07:42:28 · update #3
Looks like you're searching for a long lasting, meaningful relationship with Mr Right. Do you have a mental picture of what Mr Right seems like? Right it down - write down all his characteristics and understand whether your Mr. Right would like a girl who sleeps around a lot.
Anyway - all that being said, if you're looking for a meaningful relationship, you should not sleep with a guy immediately. Your biggest currency is sex. So, if you sleep with him immediately, you're not giving yourself the opportunity to have him get to know you better.
If a guy is only interested in what's between your legs, he's really not worth it.
Go with your initial instincts. You were right in holding out. It takes strength of character. When you meet Mr Right, you don't want to look back on your life and know that you've opened your legs to hundreds upon hundreds of people. Secretly, when guys start to want to be serious with a girl, they prefer girls who are more selective - rather than whores.
2006-09-23 07:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by Alex B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need experience. The reason your guy friend like experienced girls is because if she's slept w/ everyone else, she'll probably sleep with them. Do not date guys in that age bracket - your parents are right. The only reason a 23-24 year old guy would want to date an 18 year old (I'm sure you're a really great girl & all, but...) is because he's looking for someone naive & inexperienced (in life) that they can take advantage of. I'm not saying wait for marriage, that never happens anymore - but wait until you know its someone that you really love. It'll be better for both of you that way.
2006-09-23 14:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by UNITool 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen honey , don't become a hoe to impress your man or any man. You had sex with one person and that is very good. Some girls has had sex with over 50 men and are loose as hell. Be proud of who you are and what you do. Don't become a hoe just for guys to like you. Most men prefer to be with a girl who hasn't been around the block. A guy 20-24 isn't more experienced than you at 18 , you'll be suprised. Don't listen to your parents. You can learn as you grow , you don't need experience , it will come as you mature
2006-09-23 14:41:22 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Army Wife ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would have to depend on the guy. If a guy is out to meet a girl for the reason of bedding her, then yes, experience would be a turn on. But, it would not be a turn on for a guy who is looking for life's mate. He doesn't want to hear from the girl that he loves, that she had sex with 10 guys. If you go with your desire to wait, and meet a guy that you can have a lasting relationship with, then be open with him. When the time comes for intimacy, tell him that you are inexperienced. The two of you can work on building your experience together. It is not always best to follow the crowd. What might seem like a great idea to them now, might seem like a young mistake to them later. Be an individual, go with what you want and think is right. Good Luck.
2006-09-23 14:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by Average Joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're fine. Mr. Right won't be but so concerned with your experience. It's enthusiasm that counts. You can always ask him about what he likes.
20's probably not too old, but 24 may be pushing it. And if you're still in high school 20 might be a little old, depends on your maturity level.
You probably do attract guys your age, you just don't realize it, or you're not around enough guys your age. Sometimes older guys go after younger girls, because they think younger girls will be more easily impressed, and thus easier scores.
Of course, you could just seem older than you are, too.
Try to get involve in activities that put you around guys your age.
2006-09-23 14:40:24 · answer #5 · answered by answersBeta2.1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Real men like the girl for what she is, not what she has done.
If you want to wait then wait.
I have never been with a virgin, and it has never bothered me. However I am of an age now that I like to think I would understand the anxieties of one. I would be honoured in the extreme if a girl with little or no experience chose to be with me - turn off? Definitely not. Turn on? Without doubt.
As for the 20-24 age group asking you out - the only problem I see is your parent's attitude.
2006-09-23 14:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by steven b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why pay for a cow when you can get the milk for free ? .. These guys are having sex without any kind of commitment .. they just dump the girl whenever they want to .. You are wise to wait until you meet someone special enough to share that experience with. Not someone to "learn" on ... you won't learn anything that way, and you will probably feel lousy the next day. You are just more mature than your friends and understand the difference ! Good Luck ! :)
2006-09-23 14:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as 'getting the experience necessary' they are just making an excuse to have sex. Their intent is not to be a great partner for their future boyfriend/husband. Don't let them fool you. If you want to wait, then do what you feel is right.
As far as the guys that are asking you out....I don't think 24 is too too old for you and 20 definitely isn't, as long as it's legal and consensual I have no issues with it. But if you live with your parents and don't pay rent then you need to abide by their rules.
2006-09-23 14:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Save yourself for later.
When later don't work out (ie 10 year marriage goes down the pan) you will by then have the required experience to ensure happy days on the circuit until 'chosen one' number 2 comes along.
At 18 you don't need that kind of experience.
2006-09-23 14:40:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait until you're married, only. Get rid of your friends - they're a really bad infuence. And don't even worry about going out with any of those creeps - wait for somebody decent.
You stupid parents (speaking to the masses)! This is what happens when you send your kids to public school and aren't involved in their lives!
2006-09-23 14:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋