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im going to marry my muslim bf in november and people are giving us both alot of hassle about it and i just want to know what other peoples views are

2006-09-23 07:06:20 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

30 answers

Don't do it ,He'll BLOW YOU UP!

2006-09-23 08:16:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

I wonder why so many answers are related to 'colour'? whats that got to do with religion? There are 'white' Muslims! And there are 'black' Catholics!
Very strange that you thought it was necessary to point out that you are a 'white' catholic woman!
I can only assume that you are both adult enough to know what you are getting into, and have already agreed that any children you have will be brought up as required by one of your religions?
"People are giving you both a lot of hassle" !! You cant understand why?? and to top it all you are asking the advise from the population of this forum!
All very strange, why would you care? are you perhaps uncertain?
Your b/f is the one to talk to not us!
I am atheist so my views on the subject of religion (any religion) are very biased and not really going to be of much help to you, certainly no comfort!!
But if its any consolation, I really do wish you both all the very best of luck and I hope you both (and all mankind) can put religious differences to one side and live in peace and harmony!!
Since putting all that on here, I've just read your profile, your b/f is a Moroccan, he wants to marry you and come to England?? Think, Think, Think!!!
Would you go and live with him in Morocco??? and give up England??

2006-09-23 08:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by budding author 7 · 1 0

catholics and muslims have been marrying for decades. Its only a problem now bcs of what is going on in the world. Really its no big deal. The only thing would be for you to discuss how you will raise your children. That will be the biggest hurdle...so deal with it now so that you are both on the same page
The lebanese prime minister was a christian, many people dont know that. Catholics and Christians have existed in the middle east all this time NO big deal.....as i said its the climate
Of course people will worry that your boyfriend is some ignorant muslim or something but if you know him he is probably normal like most as long as you get to know his family and what they expect and vice versa
Marriage is all about compromise regardless of religion
Real love allows you to compromise
its that simple and ...hard

2006-09-23 08:48:51 · answer #3 · answered by intelligensio 2 · 1 0

I'm a Catholic and honestly, I don't care what others think about me being what kind of Catholic I'm supposed to be. It's your free will to marry somebody you love and I'm sure if your love towards your bf is pure, God will bless the both of you. Letting other people to judge you for what you're doing is totally ridiculous. What happens in between you and your bf is your business and not others, so the next time if anyone tells anything to you about the relationship, tell them that God will decide and not them. In the meantime, there are beliefs and rejections concerning inter-marriage nowadays but love is love...you can never take it away. Believe in you, believe in God. Do you have to be converted into Muslim if you marry your bf? Some Islamic countries require that. It's free will in England and you're free from marrying anyone of your choice as long as it's legal. Bottom lines, it still boils down into your heart. Hope this helps.

2006-09-23 07:14:21 · answer #4 · answered by Springboard 2 · 1 1

I don't see the problem. I think everyone should be able to date, marry, sleep with whoever they like, whether they are black, white muslim, hindu, fat or thin. People are so nasty these days and love to get involved in other people's lives. I come from a irish catholic family and my cousin was dating a johovous witness and the family went mad for no reason and then they ended up lossing her as she moved away and they have regreted it ever since. Do what ever you fell is right nad ignore everyone else.

2006-09-23 07:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by fairylandk 3 · 1 0

I am certain that your love is real. Muslim men have a great deal to offer. They are family oriented, protective and wonderful providers. If he is not so into his religion as to be a fundimentalist you should be ok so long as you realize that there are some things you will have to deal with no matter how much you love each other. You will not just be marying the man, you are alos agreeing to accept his family, and to honor him in front of his family. They will have expectations of you, such as you will be at his beck and call in front of them at all times. If you do not do this, you will not be accepted by them and this will eventually be a burden on your relationship. He might expect you to keep from your family or move to a strange country with him. THis might be a problem for you as well. ALl I am saying, is make sure you spend as much time getting to know his family and watch how the women act in this family. Watch how they are treated and dont be surprised if you are treated as an outsider for awhile by them. As I said, Muslims are very very family oriented and you can expect company at any time of the day or night and you should be ready to entertain them at a drop of a pin. In their society the world revolves arround the man and his father will be number one. Really think about this alot. Once you are in it may not be easy to get out. Marriage changes people. They go in with the best intentions and the greatest love, but things happen and you already have youth against you, these are two very different cultures and the reality of this decision is not the romantic dream you might be thinking it is right now while you have love blinders on.

2006-09-23 14:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by Lynnette G 2 · 1 1

I hope it works out for you but I would be very worried if it was me. Is he going to take the kids off to another country if he tires of you ?Are you going to give up your faith for him ?
Is he going to marry you to be allowed to stay in the country ? I think you should have elaborated on the question. Most muslims keep them selves to them selves I tried to be friendly to a local muslim family an was snubed for a long time.I really wanted to learn from them & make them feel welcome. I simply don't bother very much with them anymore. The wife is British & Christian and was not welcomed by most of the extended family. Although this parents accepted her. I wish you well but think it through before you make any major decisions
It is quite a big step both emotionally & culturally.
I know quite a lot of mixed marriages that have worked but still wonder how isolated the lady I know is.
Hope it works only time will tell.

2006-09-23 08:14:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think its great, I'm in the same situation, married to a Muslim and am Irish catholic, who cares what others think stick together. Best of Luck

2006-09-23 23:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by Captain Shamrock 3 · 1 0

Sorry you may not like this and i know you both must be so in love, but if you want the truth stick to your own and let him stick with his own kind, you will need to work so hard to keep your marriage believe me. Time will tell.
Given the choice again i would marry my own kind without a second doubt.
If he is a british Muslim it may be easier.
If he dosent pray yet he WILL one day.
Would you take the oath? are you prepared if you have any children that they will be brought up as Muslims? are you prepared to cover one day? you may have family pressure (his side)

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2006-09-26 08:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It will pose many problems like:
Does he expect you to convert to being a Muslim?
Is your relationship strong enough to overcome troubles?
What type of Muslim is he? Is he a British born or not? As many Muslims believe in having many wives...if so, could you cope with sharing your man?

If these are not serious issues then I say forget everyone else and concentrate on the love of your life.

2006-09-23 07:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by babybitch69 3 · 0 1

Just one question - Do you both love each other? Then don't let others stand in your way. Why should any religion or race come in the way of two people loving each other enought ot get married. Even for the wedding, let it be a cathlic or muslim, others should be happy for you both and be happy with whatever type of wedding you choose. At teh end of the day you both love each other and its them who have the problem and not you and your BF.

If you relationship is strong enough for you both to love one another and get married and then it will be strong enough for you both to get through this ordial.

Congratulations to you both xxx Good luck with the wedding. Only a couple months to go.

2006-09-24 12:06:24 · answer #11 · answered by PantherCub 1 · 1 1

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