today i went to temple for the jewish new year. and found out my parents werent coming. i got really upset that my mom wasnt going cause im real close with her and i dont know anyone else there. on the way there i start getting really upset and i dont know why but i started to cry... ive been crying alot lately but for no big deal really... i dont even know whyh...my mom started to tell me that all i did was cry and didnt have a social life and lots of mean stuff like that... what really annoyed me was that she met these kids and she knows they arent so friendly or welcoming theyve all known each other since kindergarten and theyre fine with their groups etc...
i havent had the greatest experiences with ppl so i think im affraid
of going up to ppl and just start talking to them... i just dont know what to do and the one person i thought i could count on (my mom) and would understand me doesnt even understand or try to understand
i really need some help or a little guidance.....
thanks
2006-09-23 07:00:26 · 15 answers · asked by Velvet Rain Drops 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like social anxiety. I suggest a doctor's appointment for meds and a psychologist for you to talk to. Many people have this, and it's something that you can get through. Go get some help. You'll feel so much better.
2006-09-23 07:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be feeling depressed over things like not getting close enough with your mom and stuff. It may be a little insecure feeling this way, but I'm sure you'll need to tell how you feel with your mom. She does not know how you feel, not until you tell her. You need support, someone to be there for you and you're probably not ready to do things by yourself. That's why you're feeling depressed without knowing why. Try making some new friends, and get their support. Good friends are always supportive and bring the best out from you. Take every opportunity to be close with your mom. I understand this happens a lot to teenagers, you'll get over it. Get out more to socialise. Meeting more people will change your perception about life in order not to be doomed in depression. Hope this helps.
2006-09-23 14:06:45 · answer #2 · answered by Springboard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, sweetie it'll be ok.
Talk to your mum. Tell her how you feel. Or if you feel too shy to do that, wriet her a letter.
It sounds like you're having a problem with self-esteem. Write a list of things that you're good at and thet you love about yourself. Read this list every day, and if you're feeling unconfident in a situation, think of the list. Learn to love yourself and your confidence will bloom.
Talking to people isn't that hard. Join a club doing something that you enjoy, that way you will meet other people who share your interest and you'll have something to talk about.
If you're really feeling down then talk to someone you trust, like a relative, a friend or if that fails then go to a counseller.
I hope you feel better soon, good luck!
2006-09-23 14:06:22 · answer #3 · answered by Alax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, I am not sure what you are looking for, but I will tackle what looks like the main problem.
Making friends is real work for all of us. You have not had much experience in this, and here are some tips on how to become very popular:
1) When you meet new people, learn to be a listener...get new people talking about themselves, listen carefully, and don't insert opinions at first. Be agreeable and nice. Trust me, all will think you are brilliant IF you allow them to talk about themselves! That was easy, wasn't it? (I will add that you may find many of these people boring, but if you don't meet and listen to them, how will you know if you want to have them for friends?)
2) IF you have problems even meeting people, then volunteer for things at your synagog...there is ALWAYS a need for new hands there. You will meet people of your faith who have lots in common with you. Again, refer to step 1
3) After you do the exploratory work of meeting and listening to others, you will find those that you like....be agressive in meeting and being with them.
This is what it takes to make friends. After you get some friends, always take care of the friendship..never talk badly about your friends, defend them if necessary, and BE A FRIEND to have friends.
PS: You mom loves you very much, but she is also human and can say things that are hurtful at times...give her some space to be herself. Good luck and Happy New Year.
2006-09-23 14:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That was cruel and mean of your mother. Perhaps its hormones on her part.......lets give her the benefit of the doubt.
See a hypnotherapist so they can suggest away any shyness you may feel and give you the suggestion of being a bit more outgoing. That might help, if you don't want to do that try taking some classes that you enjoy so that you are motivated to participate in discussions and get to know others.
2006-09-23 14:07:55 · answer #5 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you have depression... That's the first thing that i thought.. crying all the time for no reason. Your not pregnant are you? That can do it to... maybe you should seek out some medical advice, they will tell you more information if you need to. Also, check out this website, its good information about Depression, what causes it, the symptoms, etc... its really helpful! http://www.webmd.com/diseases_and_conditions/depression.htm
2006-09-23 14:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by Kassie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be your hormones. You need to calm down, go out and have a little bit of fun. You maybe really stressed out right now. Just sit back and enjoy life a little bit.
2006-09-23 14:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by pits_me1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you do not want to get close to the people because you are afarid you may get hurt by them, if I am right then you need to do is choose warm, loving and kind people. Hope you will be fine soon.
2006-09-23 14:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by maxunn1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your rough situation, Mei Mei - maybe you need to sit your mom down and tell her exactly how you feel, don't hold anything back - tell her how her actions are making you feel and how you wish things could be between you.
Try talking to your Rabbi if that doesn't work.
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2006-09-23 14:04:33 · answer #9 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey sweety, your just shy. And about crying alot lately, that sounds like depression to me. If you need anything, email me at hpfr3ak_pr0ud2@yahoo.com I'm always open to new friends.
2006-09-23 14:06:58 · answer #10 · answered by Answer Givererer. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋