She found it on my computer once before. I told her never again. Impulse caught up with me and so did she when she came back home sooner than I expected. She even hates if I watch something on TV in which there may be nudity or hot girls. She will get upset and go to her room and lock the door. That boggles my mind because she is a freak in bed (good way)...but the fact that I lied and promised no more porn is the worst part. I feel she is very insecure. I guess it is because I am looking at other women bodies , and that I lied. I am 25, she just turned 21. Do you think this will go away as she matures? Or do I get out now as she is too controlling? We have dated for a year and a half and lived together for a few months now. I love this girl to death but afraid it can only get worse.
Little help here!?!?!?! We both have talked about marriage before, but no way if this gets worse. I am in no hurry to rush into anything regardless of this situation or not.
2006-09-23 06:54:56 · 30 answers · asked by Jenkins 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get her involved and make your own porn!
Okay, seriously. Her feelings are hurt because you lied to her. Tell her you are sorry, that you really love her and that internet porn women are no comparison to her. She's a child, really, and this insecurity will go away as you both get older and spend more time together.
UNLESS you are spending too much time with the internet porn. Have you considered you may have an addiction problem?
2006-09-23 07:00:05 · answer #1 · answered by shomechely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This jealousy thing does lessen when you get older BUT there are still older women out there VERY controlling and jealous.
Another thing, your porn addiction MAY also decrease as you get older. But, again, there's still ALOT of older men out there still into it like crazy.
So, only time will tell with both of you.
My suggestion to you is either a.) stop (which we know is NOT gonna happen) or b.) don't get caught anymore.
When it comes to watching tv, just change the channels casually when she is around would be a small suggestion, if it's THAT big of a deal for her.
Obviously, she feels that if she overcompensates in the bedroom you shouldn't have no reason to look elsewhere, this is where men and women are SO different.
Does she like looking at porn? Maybe you can change it where you BOTH look at it. If not, than you're just gonna have to hide it more, lol, sorry.
2006-09-23 07:01:42 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ ms. @ ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she's a freak in bed, you should appreciate it, girls like that don't come around every day. Give up the porn, a picture isn't going to f*ck you, your girlfriend will. Make HER the star of your life...Perhaps some role playing is called for?
2006-09-23 06:59:10 · answer #3 · answered by jasondne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have lied..but you have and now you have to sit down and talk to her. She probably feels you like those kinds of women and she feels insecure about that. Plus she might feel that sex is something special shared between you and her, and here you are thinking about giving that something special to other women. Its a big issue and you both really need to sit down and discuss it with each other. Ask her how she feels about it, tell her how you feel about it...talk..don't argue.
But, its natural to masturbate..I can garantee she does it herself. If you feel you can't talk about this...then you shoudn't be together and shoudn't even think about getting married.
2006-09-23 07:54:56 · answer #4 · answered by Bethie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahahaahah this sounds familiar....
after having great sex be very romantic and assure her how much u love her and think she´s apecial and the way she dominated ur heart..u know just bla bla her with really nice talking then tell her that ur sorry for promising and not keeping it..like this ¨im sorry baby i really didnt mean to hurt u, ur so special to me ur my angel and i adore u, but there are things u should know about us men, we men have our needs, its something normal that we we watch stuff like that coz we love the sensation it doesnt mean that i dont love u or i desire someone else is just what it is..ill try to stop it but i need time...and i dont like the way u react and get mad coz its ruining our relationship, im happy with u but im miserable when u get jealous and we start to argue....¨ just fool her with the boy talk u men use to brain wash women...
anyways i had this conversation with my man and he loves porn stuff...in the beginning i get a lil mad coz its nasty but then i realized that its spicens our sex life i even watch with him..and we r really honest to each other about it..now he´s more aware of my feelings and tries to stay away from those things.but when he´s temptation wins im there with him!
honesty and communication are the key to a great relationship!
2006-09-23 07:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by Sus-Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if she is awesome in bed than i'm assuming that she knows how to pleasure herself. if so, ask her when the last time she masterbated and if you tells you she doesn't. she lying to you. no one is that great in bed and then not know how to "take care" of themselves...
it's human nature and you shouldn't be ashamed or made to feel ashamed of it, even watching porn,
she is 21 years old and has a lot to learn. make sure you show her how much you love her and then there would be no doubts.
2006-09-23 07:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by jazz_thieves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants you to stop the porn, and you don't want to, I guess the porn is more important to you than her.
She has every right to be insecure about this since you are paying more attention to 2d women, and not your own lady.
If she's smart, she'd ditch you before it's to late.
however if you want to salvage what you have-- ditch the porn, install blockers on your computer and get counseling!!!!
2006-09-23 06:59:03 · answer #7 · answered by Skiingred 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She's totally insecure. The fact of the matter is guys watch porn. She's just going to have to get over it!!! If it does get worse, marriage is out of the question, unless you're into pain, then have at it.
2006-09-23 06:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by Jerrysberries 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Share the porns with her and both of you can musterbate each other.She will enjoy this.She is upset as only you alone enjoy porns. Take her back to the track.
2006-09-23 07:00:48 · answer #9 · answered by JILMAAL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS JUST MY OPINION NOT A SEXOLOGY COUNSELING, it is natural the way that she is acting because,why do you need to masturbating if you have her? that's mean did she is not doing her part good Now you understand how she is feeling, you are making her insecure women please be honest with her and if you make her a promise please don't brake up.
2006-09-23 07:20:01 · answer #10 · answered by sancherits 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋