One of cousin is very jelous of me from my boyhood. Now is in good job position and earn more money than me. When in any occaion we met togather he do not talk with me. If i proceed to talk with him he try to negect me. But he show interest to talk with my wife. It hurts me very much. What i should do then. Should i protest my wife or protest him. Should i avoid the occation.
2006-09-23 06:30:39 · 4 answers · asked by Ritu P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your cousin seems to have some attitude problems to deal with. He likes speaking to your wife, he may be jealous of you. The reason is unknown, maybe from your childhood. Maybe you're far off a better person than him, family and relatives prefer you better than him and he feels jealous each time they praise or mention about you. Now he's in a better position than you jobwise does not mean he's not over with his jealousy. He might still feel enraged with the jealousy that he feels annoyed each time he sees you. Deep inside he might be admiring your good personality that he's far too ego to let you know. On the other side he's working hard to be richer and more successful than you so that your family can be proud of him. Many reasons, i'm sure he prefers talking to your wife is one of his signs of rejection of not talking to you. As adults, maybe it's always good to bring back in terms. Try talking to him, ask him directly what is actually wrong and tell him that you've noticed him doing all these to you and you need to know why. It fair for the both of you. He needs to be listened and you need to be clarified from confusion. I'm sure he appreciates it someday when he realises you're there to help him and not being his competitor. Let him know you care. Hope this helps.
2006-09-23 06:56:55 · answer #1 · answered by Springboard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is hurt from the past. He was in competition with you and now he thinks he is better than you. Have your wife ask him why he does not talk to you? If he does not respond to your wife, then have your wife say that she can not talk to someone who does not answer her questions. If he does respond, your wife should try to mediate and calm whatever the situation is. If mediation does not work, then in time he will turn around. Don't let him see that you are upset.
2006-09-23 13:37:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just explain ur wife ,ur cousins behaviour towards u
she"ll stay away frm ur cousin.
just try to tell ur wife all the truth.so tht u"ll feel proud of her when she"ll neglect ur cousin.
dont force her to neglect him
2006-09-23 13:35:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show some class and act mature.
2006-09-23 13:33:09 · answer #4 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋