Hi i am 18 going to be 19 and just got married it was a spur of the moment thing i went with my bf of 2 months to vegas with some friends and at some point one of his friends said we were like a married couple and my bf just turned around and said why not get married right now and then we kind of did. This was a joke that was taken way too far. This happened a month ago and we are still really in love but after this we pretended like nothing happened.My parents cant stand him because he is 21 and italian not spanish like they wanted and his parents dont really like me because i am spanish and they want him to date Italian girls.We told them we were engaged after the trip to Vegas. Is there a nice way to tell our parents this? I also think i may have gotten pregnant that night on top of it.
2006-09-23 06:23:15 · 5 answers · asked by Keri O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I check and yes we really are legally married. Should we tell them all at once or just bump down the engagmet time if i am pregnant?
2006-09-23 06:25:00 · update #1
Both our families are catholic and would take this serious. My husband want to stay married but i am not sure if i want too i am only a freshmen in college?
2006-09-23 06:26:22 · update #2
well u r of age and ther's nothing either sets of parents can do so u might as well just tell the truth. if u love this man then u should really just go for it and if there is a baby coming, i can pretty wellguarantee u that both sets of parents will get over what u 2 have done and focus all there energy on the new baby. good luck sweetie, go with ur heart
2006-09-23 06:28:15 · answer #1 · answered by Nora G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be so blunt about this, but you are either one of the dumbest people on Earth, or just reckless with your life. You have made a life-long commitment to someone by taking marriage vows...and now you are pregnant, AND you don't know if you want to continue the "joke?" !!!! Girl, you left the realm of Jokes behind you when you legally said, "I do." You ARE married, no matter what you think. And now, you are going to be a mother!!!! Lord, you are going to live with all of this "Joke" for the rest of your life. Get used to it, stop living in denial and face the facts of life. And I know you will not like what I have written, but even you have to admit I do have a point here!
If I were you, I would 1) Decide what you are going to do about the baby...that is first and foremost. 2) Decide what you are going to do about this marriage....don't even think about leaving all family out of the loop. They will find out. IF you are Catholic, then divorce will mean that you can never be married in the church again...it doesn't matter to me, but I suspect it will matter to your parents. You are going to find out shortly that there are some things in life that we cannot undo, and you have done one of them. Getting out of marriage is far more difficult than getting into one. Good luck, and I certainly hope you grow up BEFORE you have a baby.
OF course, this is so outrageous that it may be your idea of a joke...if so, HA HA...very funny. Stop wasting space here.
And one final thing..stop listening to people who say, "Go with your heart!" Obviously you didn't use your brain when you did this, so I suggest strongly that you start now, and stop using your heart if it is so misleading.
2006-09-23 13:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem to be very smart, it may have been a joke
but you two seem to care about each other
so just come out and told them
if you wish you can wait to make sure that you are preg and give them the news together
as for school tell your husband that you have every intention to continue
for Culture Clash who care just be happy
life is too short
Take care
2006-09-23 13:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents that you are pregnant. Then tell them that you got married. The shock and relief will counteract each other.
2006-09-23 13:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by whataboutme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go Girl!!! Your parents playing the nationality key is kind of shallow. You followed your heart and I think that is good. Now follow your heart again and do what it tells you!!!
2006-09-23 13:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋