2006-09-23 06:16:35 · 11 answers · asked by canadien_eh? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What do you do about a totally self-absorbed friend?
I think there is a bit of a ‘contradiction in terms’ there…
If someone is totally absorbed in themselves, they don’t have friends !
All they care about is themselves, so they would be lacking what is needed for them to have a friendship with anyone else.
Friendship is a two-way relationship.
You may like someone, and consider them to be your friend…
But if they don’t like you, or they are too wrapped up in themselves, then you are not sharing a friendship.
If you are concerned about someone who is totally self-absorbed, then perhaps you need to target your feelings toward someone who will at least appreciate the way you feel !!!
2006-09-23 06:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become her mirror. What I mean by that is u become more absorbed then her to let her see how others see her, when she do something u do some ever more absorbed that way she will say something about the way ur act, when she does then keep acting after a little while ask her( that bothers u the way Im acting , oh thats how u act and how I see u NOT A PRETTY SITE) to have to put up with the way u make others feel( right)
She may stop being this way not right away but she will start to see how it look and she might change the way she acts.
2006-09-23 14:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a friend to this person? If you care for the person at all you need to confront them with their self centredness. If it doesn't do any good, don't write them off (they may wake up some day) but invest more of your time in more fruitful friendships. In other words, don't get 'absorbed' by the person!
2006-09-24 20:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by Mr Ed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them that their being self-absorbed bugs you. why are you their friend if they are self-absorbed? i mean, people are who they are, and a lot of the times, they really don't care how others feel about them. well, tell her how you feel, and if she doesn't do anything about it, then either quit being her friend, or stay away from her when she's acting self-centered. no offense, but are you a lil jealous?
2006-09-23 13:20:01 · answer #4 · answered by moneymakerchic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let them go or just keep them at arms length. I've had a few of those and I then started to realize that they were making my life harder. If they had a problem I was supposed to help them figure out what to do but if I had a problem it was my problem. Who need enemies when you have selfish friends?
2006-09-23 13:19:33 · answer #5 · answered by chrisgharr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and talk to them about how u feel and how the world doesn't only evolve around her there other ppl with feeeling
2006-09-23 13:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by Make Love Not War! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT IS SUCH AN EASY QUESTION. YOU CAN NOT CHANGE SOMEONE UNLESS THEY WANT TO MAKE CHANGES. JUST GET A KINDER FRIEND. DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME OF THIS PERSON, YOU WILL JUST BE UNHAPPY.
2006-09-23 14:23:17 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her but nicely if she is really your friend she might be a little hurt but it's better she hears it from you and tell her that you noticed.
2006-09-23 13:20:42 · answer #8 · answered by qwerty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wave goodbye, not that they will notice you've left.
2006-09-23 13:22:58 · answer #9 · answered by golden oldy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if they are all about themselves are they really a friend
2006-09-23 13:22:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋