will it hurt real bad
2006-09-23 05:54:59 · 11 answers · asked by steph 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all if you want to wait then WAIT! You have the right to OWN your own body. You have a right to have your own feelings, beliefs, opinions and perceptions. You have the right to be true to your own values about sexual contact. You have the right to set your own sexual limitations. You have the right to say NO. You have the right to say yes. You have the right to be sexually assertive. You have the right to be in control of your sexual experiences. You have the right to have a loving partner who respects and cares for you mind, body and spirit. You have the right to talk to your partner about your feelings and beliefs about sex. You have all these and many more rights when it comes to you as a sexual being. I don't know how old you are but if you are under 18 years old then if you do choose to have sex with your current boyfriend and your parents find out that could mean BIG trouble for your boyfriend. Do you love this boy? Do you truley believe that you are going to be with him for the long run? Bottom line is......if you want to wait to have intercourse/sex then that's what you should do WAIT. There is no hurry to push intercourse and obviously you are trying to convince yourself in some way to have sex with your boyfriend even though deep in your heart you don't feel ready. If you aren't ready then you aren't ready. Period. That's all. If your boyfriend truley cares for you and your entire person as a whole then he'll respect that decision and not push you anymore. Or, he may decide that if you won't have sex with him then he's going to go and find another girlfrind. That's a chance you'll have to take if you want to take care of yourself and be true to your beliefs. And, if that's what he does, then won't you be happy that you didn't give your virginity to someone who really didn't care a hoot about you only about your body? Be proud of yourself and your beliefs and stand up for them! You'll be glad you did. As far as how it feels goes, well, it really depends on each individual. Some women who have been using tampons for years have opened the vaginal opening some and may have an easier time of it. Many young women who have never used a tampon or a vibrator, both of which get inserted into the vaginal opening (well, the vibrator doesn't always but that's not the subject) ussually experience some discomfort when they first have intercourse. Most likely when they first have intercourse they are breaking the hyman, a thin small layer of skin which covers part of the vaginal opening, and that's where the pain comes in. Sometimes there may be a little blood also. I hope I helped answer your questions. Good Luck and stay true to yourself......you'll be glad you did, whatever your decision ends up being.
2006-09-23 06:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is gentle, and takes it slowly, and you communicate with him clearly about how you're feeling, it probably WONT hurt that bad at all. Regardless of how long you wait however, that wont change how much or how little it hurts.
Most important though, is that you should NOT have sex just because he wants to. You shouldn't have sex until YOU are ready and do NOT let anyone pressure you into it.
2006-09-23 13:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it hurts like H*LL. You will not enjoy your first time at all. You will be crying the whole time while he is having his fun. It doesn't hurt guys. You will be really sore and walk funny for a while too so everybody will know you've been having sex.
2006-09-23 13:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by angie1977c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanna wait till you're married, then wait till you're married! He apparently doesn't respect your decision, so he doesn't respect you entirely.
And if you were born with a hymen and it's still intact, then I think it'll most likely hurt at first.
2006-09-23 13:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as your mother would say "if he wanted you to jump off a bridge, would you?" heck, no. dump him. obviously he doesnt respect you or your opinion, and once you give in, chances are he'll dump you. teach him a lesson that women are to be respected, and once he learns that then he wont pressure you - hopefully - anymore.
2006-09-23 13:03:10 · answer #5 · answered by lisa a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it will hurt a little....if you don't want to do it till your married ..don't...you only have one shot at the first time...don't do it for the wrong reasons
2006-09-23 13:02:16 · answer #6 · answered by chereeder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men want only sex .He does not love you enough to wait.He does not care about you.but is up to you.
2006-09-23 13:02:13 · answer #7 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont compromise for your relationship, your bf should care about you enough to wait, then youll know he is a keeper.
2006-09-23 13:01:52 · answer #8 · answered by pokeyson_poodle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Stand by your convictions. Does this guy have no respect for you at all?
2006-09-23 13:01:46 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guy should careabout your feelings and not make you do something you don't wanna do!
2006-09-23 13:06:57 · answer #10 · answered by booboo_305 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋