my friend split up with her boyfriend of four years.they have 2 kids together.he is seeing another girl but yet he still comes home to my friends house.they sleep in the same bed.i tried to tell her that he is using her but she won't listen.she says they're not getting back together but she still lets him sleep with her.how can i help her see the light?
2006-09-23 05:49:21 · 8 answers · asked by astrosgurl2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The only person that can help her see the light is herself. She will find out the hard way that he is using her. The bes thing that you can do for her as a friend is to stay out of it. It will be hard but how will she learn from her mistakes if you keep telling her that her so-called ex-boyfriend is using her? She will not listen to you. In life, we as human beings learn from our mistakes the hard way. Once that mistake is made and is learned from, it will not be repeated. Continue to be there for her as a friend. She will realize that he is using her eventually.
2006-09-23 05:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have spoken to her once then there is nothing more you can do. In any case your friend is a mature woman and she has 2 kids to think of. How a third person will know what her reasons are for accepting this situation !!
I suggest you step back for now and let her make her own decisions.
2006-09-23 06:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. She may be well aware that he is just using her, but for her any relationship may be better than none. Being alone isn't all that great; this may be her way to deal with it. Some people aren't ready to give up on someone, or she just may feel better having someone in her life. Sometimes it's "better the devil you know" ~ she knows what she's in for with him.
The best thing you can do is be her friend; she doesn't need to know that you don't like him, just that you will be, and are, her friend regardless, and that if it does end, that you won't be someone that says "I told you so"... most of us are smart enough to know, but we all have our ways of coping.
Good luck!
2006-09-23 06:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by kalyko13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it best that you stay out of the situtation. You have explained your feelings and she has heard you. People are not being used if they wish to be in the circumstances. She is probably staying with him as she has nowhere else to go and who knows maybe she is willing to put up with his child-like behavior until she can figure something else out. She may also feel as though he will come to his senses. Anyway, you have told her what you thought and leave it alone.
2006-09-23 05:55:35 · answer #4 · answered by oldone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR FRIEND ALLOWS HERSELF TO BE USED. SHE DOES NOT WANT TO SEE THE LIGHT. FOR SOME REASON SHE NEEDS THIS, WHETHER IT BE EMOTIONAL OF PHYSICAL.
SHE MIGHT BE HAVING A VERY DIFFICULT TIME EVEN ADMITTING IT IS OVER AND THIS IS HER WAY OF HOLDING ON. MAKES NO SENSE TO ME OR YOU, BUT IT MUST BE SOMETHING SHE IS TOO WEAK TO LET GO OF. I DON'T THINK IT HURTS YOU, OTHER THAN SEEING WHAT SHE ALLOWS TO GO ON, SO JUST LET IT GO.
JUST A THOUGHT, MAYBE SHE DOESN'T THINK SHE CAN DO ANY BETTER
2006-09-23 07:26:33 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been threw what your friend is going threw and i am sorry to say there will be nothing you can do to change what she is going threw .in her eyes at lest he comes around and in tell she her self decides that she is done it will stay this way and all you can do is make sure your there when that time comes and she needs a friend .good luck
2006-09-23 06:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by kristy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from people like that. This girl loves abuse. Why does she have two kids? I feel bad for them.
2006-09-23 06:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by dirkdiggler9999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can.
She has to figure it out.
The best thing you can do is step back and wait.
Because you know its coming to an end soon.
That is when she will need you.
2006-09-23 05:54:01 · answer #8 · answered by wHaT eVeR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋