When my boyfriend drinks he looses control and becomes crazy.When I drink I sit right here on the computer and I'm just fine.Well last weekend we both got drunk(me drunk here at home on the computer/him drunk at a friends house).He was suppose to come home that night but stayed out all night(first time offender)I was mad ,but not to mad as we usually dont have this sort of problem and there is allot of trust in the relationship.I just figured he was having a really good time.His friend comes by and ends up falling asleep on the sofa next to one of my friends.Well when my boyfriend gets home he is flipping out with jealousy and ends up getting arrested.Well we decided not to drink anymore.(by the way I did not do anything with his friend).Now he is going to drink a six pack and tells me he can drink,but I cant.I dont get it.I'm not the one who gets crazy when drinking.I was going to stop drinking so it would be easy for him to stop.I just dont get it.Whats your thoughts on this?
2006-09-23 05:37:48 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is not an alcoholic.He does not drink everyday only one day a week or every two weeks.He's only 21.The problem is he gets crazy and out of control while drunk.I dont understand why it's so important for me to not drink when the only thing different about me when I'm drunk is I talk allot more.Well talk more and sing allot!I should be the one enjoying the six pack not him.I told him if he is going to drink then I'm going to have me a mixed drink tonight.He said no your not going to drink anymore I'm only going to drink this six pack.I just dont understand how this went from the both of us not drinking and now it's only me and I'm not even the one who looses control while drunk.
2006-09-23 05:58:14 · update #1
Don't allow him to dictate to you what you can and cannot do. If you follow his rules which he doesn't follow for himself, then he will learn that he controls you and that won't be good. So go ahead and drink if you want to. The fact that your bf gets jealous and arrested over something you did (but didn't do anything wrong) shows he is very immature. I'm inclined to think you would be better off without him....he may eventually start physically abusing you when he's drunk. Please make a plan that if you ever become afraid of him or if he actually does strike you, you will end your relationship.
2006-09-23 09:37:11 · answer #1 · answered by Dellajoy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol.
What a lovely name for a mixture of chemicals that fuel CARS.
Sorry, had to get that out.
Your boyfriend's problem is that he is too compulsive, too uncaring. Let me ask you a question: Does he do things spontaniously? Does he not get along with his parents? Does he seem not to care if he dies the next day?
Drinking an entire six pack, in one setting, is not a good idea, unless your boyfriend is large. Even then, it is not a good idea.
Your boyfriend needs a wakeup call. Do you have a video camera? or a one that you could borrow? If so, then do the following:
Videotape your boyfriend the next time he gets drunk. Don't make it obvious, just stick it in a place where it can see him, for the most part.
When he sobers up, show him the tape.
2006-09-23 05:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by Captain Moe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 17:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by mccullun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has two issues 1 he is an alcholic, 2 he is also a control freak. = Huge disaster..If you love him you need to help him see that he has a problem. And you cannot be his enabler. Its time for some tough love. Find someone to stay with for a while to give him that time to think. Things could get worse for you if you stay and accept it.
2006-09-23 05:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by Smurfette 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It definately sounds like you are in a relationship with a guy who has a drinking problem. If he isn't an alcoholic, he likely is on his way to being one. It's likely going to take some kind of tragedy for him to see it as being any kind of a problem. You have to decide how much of his alcohol problem you can deal with.
2006-09-23 05:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by Chris D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's called obsessive behavior. I have an ex son in law who had two marriages end because of it. drinking just magnifies it. by the way, You don't have to drink every day or, even every month to be an alcoholic, it's about how You handle it when You are drinking.
2006-09-23 06:23:25 · answer #6 · answered by ny21tb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an alcoholic is not diagnosed by how often he drinks but by what happens when he drinks.
he is an alcoholic, or, if you don't like that term, he's a jerk when he drinks. he can tell you not to drink? what kind of relationship is this?
and you're subjecting your kids to this? why?
read the book, "Getting them Sober" - it's all about detaching from another's substance abuse problems.
2006-09-23 08:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't quit, he needs help. If you find that you can't quit either, get help. AA is free and everyone there will welcome you with open arms. After living with an alcoholic I can tell you it is a living nightmare. Nothing will come before the alcohol, not you, not anything. There is also Al-anon for friends of family of alcoholics. Go immediately.
2006-09-23 05:42:36 · answer #8 · answered by Robin N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
break up with him. Jealousy isn't good in a relationship, especially when it's not warranted. Rage & violence isn't good either & usually just gets worse as time goes on. If he can't even commit to stopping drinking, he won't be able to truly commit to you when you really need or want him to.
2006-09-23 05:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by M W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what a freegin mess....take one can from his six pack and stick it up his bumm....
truly though my thought is that i remember all that drama that goes along w/ drinking...i used to but no longer do...had a boy friend once that the only time we ever fought was when he'd go to the bar....
maybe quitting might be a good idea...not for him but yourself....just for awhile..see if you get a little different perspective
2006-09-23 05:52:23 · answer #10 · answered by chereeder 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋