well there is a girl we have eben talking sicne august and in september i decided to ask her if she wud like to starta relation ship and she says no can we wait a week sooo dumb as i can be i said sure then two days lter she has another guy which has rly made me madd becuz she pretty much told me i was the best guy and she wud never find anything better than me and i rly trusted her and there relationship went on for about 2 weeks becuz then she relaized how important we were to each other and she told me she broke it off with them for me and now im decided either take another chance with her or trust my frineds and listen to them when they say no your gana get hurt again and in my heart it tells me to go with her and yet i dont want to get hurt as bad as i did .....(im 15 and u might be older dont be a *** and come up with some jerkass annswers give me what u think its important to me shes beautifull and im not sure what to do ....
2006-09-23 04:56:58 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What I did with my friend when she was unsure about asking a guy to home coming and what I do when I have a situation that I can't work out mentally is you kno how your gut is trying to tell what to do well think about what your gut says then flip a coin if the coin agrees with your gut then go with it if it disagrees well I usually say go with your gut anyways but now you have a 50/50 choice gut or coin which do you think is more reliable (I say gut but thats just me) so listen to your gut and flip a coin. and then compare. good luck now please answer my question.
2006-09-23 05:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by F9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if you continue in this relationship, it will probably turn out to be a very controlling one. From what you say, this girl seems to me like she doesnt know what she wants. So either one of two things will happen, she will continue to string you along and make you think she likes you, then when she sees another guy thats cuter/has more money/will buy her things/etc...she will go for him, and when that relationship doesnt work out, she knows you will always be back there in the shadwos waiting for her. Or, you guys will have a relationship and she will just cheat and lie the whole time because she knows she can get away with it. Honestly it seems like a small problem now, but these small problems will escalate into bigger problems, trust me, and you dont need that in a relationship. She will continue to treat you like a doormat, constantly taking your feelings for granted and then crushing them again. Your 15, there are so many more beautiful, nice, caring girls out there that are going to like you, and treat you better than this girl. Forget about her, chances are minimal that you guys will ever carry out a relationship, honestly she sounds too immature. Find someone new, who wont make you feel like crap, you shouldnt have to walk on egg shells because you think shes going to dump you for the next cute guy that walks by, thats not how a relationship works. Find someone you trust that wont hurt your feelings, and stay strong! GOOD LUCK! :)
2006-09-23 12:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by Ricki M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I have been there. My very first boyfriend and I dated for 7 months then he said he wanted to break up. He found a new girlfriend, they broke up he came back to me and I went back out with him. This happened two more times before I finally met the guy I am with now. My current boyfriend helped me realize that my first boyfriend was just using me and didn't care if I got hurt. If you want to ask her out go for it, but I am pretty sure she is just like my ex and will use you over and over again.
2006-09-23 12:11:07 · answer #3 · answered by DEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you might get hurt if you give this girl a second chance. But what if you don't get hurt. Live is to short to worry about what if. She made a mistake but luckily for the both of you she realized her mistake and knows now that she wants you. Get of the net and give your girl a second chance mate
2006-09-23 12:03:42 · answer #4 · answered by CiCi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think it was honorable for her to break it off with that other guy. sometimes you just have to take a chance, so what if you get hurt again, at least you know you followed your heart, and if she does hurt you, she has no idea what she's missing, because if you care enough to ask this question, you must care alot.
best wishes.
Ashlyn
2006-09-23 12:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am 13 years old turning 14 soon and i think no you shouln't go with her because she led you on making you think about all this stuff making you sprung and she should have never said that if she was positively sure. see i had that kinda relationship with a guy except he was FLIRTING WITH OTHER GIRLS AND TELLING PEOPLE HE WENT OUT WITH ME FOR FUN!!!!!!!!. but lets talk about you , if you were the perfect one for her she wouldn't have bothered to go with a another guy.
2006-09-23 12:04:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude ur basically like me....i had the same thing going on....well i think if she really loves u and try to get the words "i love u alot" out of her.........then date her and MAKE SURE UR NOT MOVING...
2006-09-23 12:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by zil2mz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask her out and she will tell you how she feels about you.
2006-09-23 12:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by Symbolic User 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋