he can not have babys ,and i want them . we got togather when i was 15 im now 22 and he is 43 . i am at the point i cant even stand to go home. he is very jealous, and controlling.he tells me i cant to better even if i try . accuses me of sleeping with people while i am at school(COLLEGE) i have now anly been with three people in my life . one before him , him and now 6 years later another man , and i have gotten pregnant ( ITS TRUE< it only takes one time) He is mental abusive and treats me as if i am a child . WHAT WOULD YOU DO ? tell him and stay or leave and dont say a thing .
2006-09-23 04:56:53 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i meant 6 years july 24th 2006 made 6 years
2006-09-23 05:06:09 · update #1
Not because of the age difference, but more because of the maturity difference (where he is the undeveloped one more than you) I would suggest that this relationship will not work, especially considering his behavior patterns and that you are now pregnant. It will be something he would harp on for decades if you stay. Don't run away, start to consider your other options, but take it from a guy who cried for years after his girlfriend and him conspired to kill their own flesh and blood through abortion. ABORTION SCREWS UP YOUR OWN SOUL AND ROBS YOU OWN CHILD OF THE LIFE YOU ARE CHOSEN TO GIVE IT BY YOUR CREATOR. That comes from a former pro-choicer, who suffered so terribly after losing the gift we were given, that was so selfish. Have the baby, maybe be a happy single mother, maybe find a warm hearted, understanding guy. Plan your exit strategy and stick to it.
2006-09-23 05:22:27 · answer #1 · answered by Nick N 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously not happy so I agree with the others leave him, you don't want to wake up in 20 years time and look at the pensioner that you are still with and have wound up hating.
It sounds like you have made your mind up anyway to leave him and are looking for some reassurance from here. You would be better off calling on old freind or family member who you know will support you.
DO make sure that you tell this other man that you are carring his baby if you indend to keep it. Even if you don't intend on having a relationship with him it is the right thing to do.
Good luck with your future.
2006-09-23 05:08:38 · answer #2 · answered by andham2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweet heart if he is abusing you in any way whether its physically or mentally, you need to leave him regardless if you are pregnant or not.
now knowing that you are pregnant how do you think he is going to react when he finds out your having another mans baby? if as it is he is treating you bad, you could only imagine what he may be capable? for the sake of you and your child leave him. if the father of the baby does not want to be in the picture then screw him. raising a child on your own might be hard but in the end it will make you a more stronger and independant woman. CONGRATS!!!! adn i hope you make the right decision.
2006-09-23 05:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by cocoa615 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't have stayed this long, why put yourself through that abuse? He is much older than you, there is a big generation gap, he is abusive and controlling...what about that situation is good? Do you think he will ever accept the baby, especially since it is not his? You would be very smart to leave and find someone who loves you for you, treats you well, who you WONT cheat on....I wish you luck Hun!
2006-09-23 05:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to leave... No one needs to go through mental or any kind of abuse.. You are still young so you can find someone else that will treat you like a woman is supposed to be treated..
2006-09-23 04:59:56 · answer #5 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave and not say a thing. If he found out he might be very upset and really hurt you and the baby. I really hope you get out of this situation. Good luck to you, don't let him scare you into staying either.
2006-09-23 04:59:41 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy with him leave him.
If you are saying you are with him and pregnant with another mans baby...and the man you are with is very controling and jealous...well ask yourself if you had this baby and stayed with him would you feel safe.
Do you think he would intentionally hurt you or the baby...due to jealously.
I would say if you are not happy then leave him.
2006-09-23 05:00:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Break it off with him, even if you are not pregnant. Just being unhappy. But not that you are pregnant, just leave without telling him about the other man or the baby.
2006-09-23 05:37:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave and don't say anything. If you need to, call an abused womens shelter. This relationship doesn't sound healthy. Get out of it while you still can!
2006-09-23 05:03:49 · answer #9 · answered by mminuyasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to f**k off and find someone else that will actually love you and not try to physically or mentally abuse you.. expecially since your pregnant you or the baby dont need that!
2006-09-23 05:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋