How can you prove a parent is unfit?

Question

Ok, maybe I need to add more...While I was a 2 months pregnant, I left my soon-to-be ex back in February after his crazy tantrums (ie: throwing his belonging into walls and other items...etc) and I have been staying with my mom since then. He keeps going back and forth telling me he misses me or he does not wanna see me ever again. In June, he was harassing me by making obnoxious phone calls telling me my mom is harming me (not true) and making me have an abortion (also not true). I went and placed an Order of Protection on him. He didn't stop there. He tried coming out to talk, but I called the police on him, for my safety. Now, he placed a 298 petition to grant sole custody of our daughter. Even though my mom, family, and even my lawyer say he doesn't have a chance to get that, but I'm still worried. He has no solid job, no private transportation, and he lives in the city and I'm 35 mile away in a suburb. I've been supporting our daughter since she was born. What should I do?

Answer 1

you have to get a lawyer, and have so much documentation, I know people that are coke heads and still get visitation rights,, kids sees them snorting and has told courts,, Courts dont want to be bothered with the dribble,

Answer 2

I am glad to see you that you haven't allowed yourself to become a statistic. Fight back, that is the first step, and you have already taken the perrogative to do so. You alone would be one thing, but you are also fighting for your very helpless newborn baby girl. It is never easy going through any type of seperation, but one that turns ugly is not only difficult, but terrifying. You seem to be doing everything that you should be doing. If I were you, I would document everything that you can think of. It should be entered into the papers that your lawyer draws up for you contesting his petition for sole custody. Every verbal abuse, physical and emotional. Every harrassing phone call and threat that he made. Time is on your side because you did issue the restraining order against him so that was the best thing you could have done. Leaving nothing out is the best thing ever because you don't want that ONE little glitch to be the reason for your baby girl not being raised by you. I do have to tell you that with no steady job which means no steady income, no car, and living as far away as he does, his case doesn't look so rock solid. You definitly have that in your favor. You have much more going for you, starting with the support of what sounds like a pretty amazing family. Good for you, and kudos to them for doing what so many families should be doing in this day and age, yet they don't. Everything happens for a reason, but the fact is that it all comes down to the ultimate design, and I am pretty sure that God's master plan for this little angel that he has given you to love and raise to be a good person is not to be with a man who will do just the opposite. Trust in the fact that what is supposed to happen will, and be strong, not only for her, but yourself also. You are the woman. You carried this little girl in YOUR belly for NINE months. You did everything you were supposed to do to ensure that she would lead a normal, healthy, happy life, including walk out on the number one person who would make sure that it was the opposite of all of that. I know our legal system can sometimes be questionable, but I have to say that in this case, I think you have it on your side. I will say a little prayer for you, but I know you will be ok, and you should too. Good Luck and God bless :)

Answer 3

It depends on the state you live in. I live in CA. And here you have to have really good documentation of abuse,neglect etc... The best thing you can do is check with your local Social Services office. Or contact a lawyer in your area who handles domestic cases. Usually they do not charge for a consultation.

Answer 4

Make of list of the naughty and nice and give the list to children services. They can talk with you more about what's on the list and help decide with you if you are either misled or need serious help. Take photos of things that you are bothered with and let them see this as well.

Answer 5

signes of an unfit parent are kids that are unwashed ,malnutricionded, have bruses all the time ,parents makeing threatning words towards like you quit before i hit you in the f*u%kin@ mouth cussing and threatning are just as abuseive as physical abuse.if you know of children with unfit parents tell the children and families protect a child who cannot protect him or her self

Answer 6

based on information you provided, no judge in his right mind would grant the petition. however, some judges don't fit the proper mold to be a judge. you should get a lawyer to argue on your behalf. i wouldn't worry about it. if you don't have a drug or alcohol addiction, unfit doesn't apply. good luck babe.

Answer 7

Evidence.

What are your grounds to think the parent is unfit. Maybe you just need to contact the police. Tell them your circumstances. Have them investigate the issue.

Answer 8

Report what u know to the Bureau of child welfare. Whether or not U have proof, they r obligated to do an investigation. The worse thing that U can do is NOTHING.

Answer 9

Chances are if they aren't making it to the gym at least once a week, and they've adopted poor eating habits, they already are.

Answer 10

Call whatever they call Welfare in your state and ask. In Michigan they let some pretty funky stuff slide through

Answer 11

A parent should guide the child properly and look into all his/ her matters when the chid is under13.
After that the parents should be a little loose[when in teens].
After 18 the parents should only give strong recommendations.


IF A PARENT IS NOT LIKE THIS HE/SHE IS UNFIT